Just a thought
Right now I use the most amazing mothers helper. She's like an angel seriously - we get along so well and can sit and chat over tea/while I am homeschooling and she is just basically a second hand when she's here. She hangs out with the babe while I spend one on one time with DD, she is in tune with AP parenting, homeschooling, and some of the more nature inspired/Waldorf things we do, and it's just so nice to have that extra set of hands. I can run to the store, take DD out for ice cream, go play in the snow and leave the baby inside. It's like having...a wife!
My DH asked why I don't hire her "full time" or for more hours than just a few and I couldn't justify it. A part of me was like "what a silly expense, I can do this all myself.." but than I think, why the heck not? Why do I feel guilty for wanting to raise my child in a village of support, even if I have to well..PAY my village.
So I guess my question is: if you could afford to, would you want a "wife" I say that (and not in an un-feminist way, just being silly!) as someone who can parent alongside you, help out with chores, cooking, and child care. Allow you time to take a hot shower or read if you wanted a break during the day?