DD1 is 4 and has been cooped up in the house for 2 days with us (DD2 is 2 and DD3 is 7mo) because of snow. while i had some fun activities and the occasional pbs show she was obviously bored and it really was too cold to go out for very long (12F atm). so she pretty much been following me around the house as i do stuff, telling me all about how i'm doing things wrong. at first i tried to explain each thing but it quickly turned into "mmhm but i like to do it this way". i was putting a lot of energy into my explanations but she was't relenting so i had just switched to acknowledging her complaint instead.
this was the best one of all however:
I do a workout tape every weekday and she never gets to see me do it because she is usually in preschool. I usually do it while the younger ones are sleeping so i don't accidentally kick a child. this time though, DD3 was awake and wanted to be held so I held her for part of the workout. this meant that when the nice lady on the screen wanted me to do arm movements, i couldn't because the baby was in my arms. DD1 starts:
"mama, you're supposed to wave your arms like this"
"mama, move your arms like she says"
"can't, i'm holding your sister" (meanwhile, the baby is shrieking in joy, from being bounced around)
"mama, use your arms"
I stop, look at her and say
"I know i'm supposed to, but I can't right now, I'm holding the baby" and I resume
this is where she absolutely melted down, crying with deep sobs, couldn't even talk for a few because I was doing it *wrong*
tell me, oh wise mamas, how do you deal with the all knowing child? i suspect that i just need to take each situation as it comes.
how do you make them feel good about themselves but at the same time not let them walk all over you? i know that I myself am worn out, these three don't give me much time to recharge, and that's part of why it is getting to me that i'm so 'wrong' all the time. not just that but the endless explanations of what she is doing and the narrations and 'why?'.. i'm losing patience and that's not what our relationship needs.
4 year olds are intense. how do i handle the intensity?