I have a nanny job starting in a few weeks for newborn triplets that were born at 27 weeks. Now, they are a little over 4 months, but their adjusted age is not yet 6 weeks. The mother told me she had read Babywise. I visited them a few days ago, now that all the babies are home, and I was there for a feeding and learned quite a bit that worried me. They are on a strict feeding schedule and eat every 4 hours during the day (less often at night, I suspect). When it is time to eat, they are picked up out of their cribs, fed, and held (if there are enough arms) for a few minutes until they get sleepy. When I was there, the entire process was maybe 45 minutes. Then they are put back in their cribs and left until next feeding time about 3.5 hours later. Even if they cry. The mother said that only once had she picked up a baby before feeding time, and she would often turn off the baby monitor if they were crying.
So basically, I am concerned about these little babies. I think they need to eat more often than every 4 hours. Two have GERD and one is losing weight. I think they need to be held more for their own socio-emotional development. I have been doing extensive research to back me up, and I'd like to present it to the mom, but I don't really know how. First of all, I don't want to present it in an adversarial manner. I know the parents love their children and are feeling overwhelmed. The mom told me that this was the only way to manage three babies. I do not think they have a lot of experience with babies. Also, I am their employee. I can't just waltz in and order them around. We need to be a team. How do I do this?