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post #21 of 160

Good gracious, my DH doesn't care what I am wearing when he gets home.  I'd like to think we are a bit more evolved than that. 

 

When he gets home, he goes and puts on his ratty house clothes.  Then the 4 of us spend a bit of time together and then he works for a few hours in his office. 

 

Now, I do like to have the house cleaned up when he gets home.  More for my benefit than his. 

 

Maybe I am a more hardcore feminist SAHM than most.  I am raising kids for this man, I wash his underwear, clean his toliet and cook his food.  (washing my hands in between tolieting cleaning and cooking, of course)  He can appreciate me for that, not what I am wearing while I do it.

post #22 of 160

Generally speaking, I am in the bath when he gets home.........some reason he prefers me in this state. 

post #23 of 160

I wouldn't really care about the outfit but my feelings would be really hurt if DH greeted me offhandedly or not at all when I came home.

 

Now, to answer the OP...

 

My at home outfit is yoga pants (cropped now we are back in the tropics) and a t-shirt. I buy close-fitting, boot leg yoga pants and, while I wouldn't wear them out, I think they look pretty good for around the house. I also pick t-shirts which suit my shape. So for me that means, V or scoop necks, hip length, and also fairly close fitting. So, I am comfy but you can see my shape as well. This is usually what I'm wearing when DH gets home but it depends what we've been doing. Sometimes I stil have my bathers on or my going out clothes if we're not long home. The other day I was lying on the floor with my shirt around my neck, both flaps of my nursing bra open and a baby dive-bombing my chest lol.gif He didn't seem to mind winky.gif I only wear make-up for special occasions so I don't have make-up on. I do try and keep my hair neat throughout the day but it is short so it's mostly a matter of running my fingers through it and giving it a quick tousle.

 

Most of the time J and I will greet DH at the door, kisses and cuddles all round. Then we go to the bedroom together and chat while he gets changed. If I am in the middle of something I can't leave (cooking usually, or being dive bombed by an 8 m.o.) I call out "Hi" when I hear him come in the door and he comes to me for a kiss and we chat there before he gets changed. 

 

ETA - when he first arrives we usually have an "it's nice to be home/have you home" exchange too.

post #24 of 160

This is totally just my personal opinion I would NEVER care if the subject was important to someone else, I would consider it none of my business.  That being said:

 

My husband is greeted with our children bouncing up and down at windows and doorways screaming "daddy's home, daddy's home!"  I am elsewhere, busy, usually changing a diaper or feeding a baby.  I believe him being greeted that way speaks more good of him as a husband/father than me greeting him dressed to please could ever speak good of me being a good wife/mother.

post #25 of 160
Depends on the day. I dont make a point of wearing nice clothes unless I am going out and then for me nice = Jeans+Man's ribbed t under a button up shirt. Some days I am in my sleep clothes either a gown or nightie.

Some days I go give him a hug and some days I dont get up off the couch. He could care less either way.
post #26 of 160
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Originally Posted by Getz View Post
  I am raising kids for this man, I wash his underwear, clean his toliet and cook his food.  (washing my hands in between tolieting cleaning and cooking, of course)  He can appreciate me for that, not what I am wearing while I do it.


This.

 

In our household, it's actually DP's duty to come find ME upon arrival home. I'm freakin' busy! He can come to me and give me a kiss!

 

and I wear whatever I feel like wearing that day. Usually it is the same black yoga pants and something I can nurse in. He comes home and trades his whole man outfit for shorts anyway.

post #27 of 160

So I asked DH if he would prefer that I look nicer when he comes home. He looked at me like I was on something and said, "What? Why? Huh?" He was very confused. I explained about this thread and he said he'd honestly never thought about it and does not care what I wear or look like. He said he'd be a little weirded out if he came home and I was all dolled up. Which makes me kind of want to do the whole June Cleaver look one day just to freak him out! He also said he'd be okay with coming home to find me naked.

post #28 of 160

My DH could not care less what I wear 99% of the time.  He couldn't care less what he wears 99% of the time.  Now, if he and I are going out on a date, he would prefer nice jeans, a nice shirt instead of sweatshirt.  And he likes it if I wear my hair down occasionally.  But, any other time, I don't think he even notices.  The first thing he does when he gets home is goes upstairs and changes into a pair of sweatpants and a sweatshirt, often, even if there's something going on that evening, like a soccer game for DD1 (15).  He's been known to go to those games in ratty sweatpants and sweatshirt with the sleeves cut off.  So whether or not I am in sweatpants or jeans when he walks in the door isn't even on his radar.

 

Nowadays, the most likely place to find me when he walks in the door is nursing dd3.  The second most likely place is changing her diaper, and the third is cooking dinner/getting food together for dd2.  When he walks in, I let dd2 run over screaming DA! DA! DA!  He loves that.  I then usually say "Hey babe!  how was your day?" 

 

I HAVE in the past greeted him at the door with dinner and a beer.  It surprises him and it's fun to surprise him like that.  But that was before dd2 and 3 came along. 

post #29 of 160

Most days, DH doesn't get home until 8 or so. At that point, DS and I have already eaten dinner, sometimes DS is already in bed, and I'm sitting down relaxing, so yeah, I'm usually in PJs. When he gets home at 6 or 6:30, I'm still in the clothes I wore that day. DS and I usually go somewhere most days, so I get dressed, jeans, nice t shirt, hoodie, hair done and a little makeup. It's for me just as much as it is for DH though. If I stay in my pajamas all day, I have less motivation to get stuff done, plus I feel more put together. I'm in better shape when he gets home than he is. DH works on cars, and comes home covered in grease and needs a shower right away :)

post #30 of 160
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Originally Posted by Marsupialmom View Post

Generally speaking, I am in the bath when he gets home.........some reason he prefers me in this state. 



Hehe!  Now that's awesome!  :)

post #31 of 160

Thanks for not flaming me, all.

 

Obviously every family is different, I was in no way trying to be judgemental. 

 

I guess I will say that looking put together is just as important for myself as it is for dh.  He probably doesn't care, but I just feel better and more motivated and productive if I get dressed and cleaned up early in the day.  More "professional" I guess?  I'm still kind of adjusting to staying home from working a full full time job, and I can feel so bummy some days if I don't really give myself a kick in the patootie in the am.

post #32 of 160
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Originally Posted by plantnerd View Post

I guess I will say that looking put together is just as important for myself as it is for dh.  He probably doesn't care, but I just feel better and more motivated and productive if I get dressed and cleaned up early in the day.  More "professional" I guess?  I'm still kind of adjusting to staying home from working a full full time job, and I can feel so bummy some days if I don't really give myself a kick in the patootie in the am.

I think this probably explains a fair amount, and is totally cool.  I've been working from home as an editor for......12 years now and am quite enamored with the fact that I can quite literally roll out of bed, turn on my laptop, and start working. lol.gif  It's one of the major selling points to me.

 



 

post #33 of 160

I must be weird.  I don't have "in the house" and "out the house" clothes and i sleep naked or nearly naked so there's no "staying in PJ's" option either.  That said i don't "dress up" either.  Jeans and a top (nursing top always right now) is my usual fare.  I have 30-35lbs to lose from my getting-less-recent-all-the-time pregnancy too!

 

So generally DP walks in to me cooking, and the kids excited to see him (DD1 screaming his name, DD2 smiling and waving her arms to be picked up).  He usually comes to find me, i give him a good squeeze and a kiss and ask him how his day was and he briefly asks me how the kids have been.  Then he goes to get changed, usually accompanied by DD1, sometimes he takes the baby too and lays her on the bed to chat with himself and DD1 while he's getting into jeans and a tee himself.  While he's getting changed i am finishing and serving dinner.  We all sit down together to eat every night.  Over dinner we talk more about our respective days and the food and plans for the weekend etc..

 

After dinner he clears the table and makes tea while i nurse the baby, then we drink tea, he snoozes a bit.  Then one or both of us does bedtime (bath/shower, teeth, stories for DD1) and i usually lay with DD2 to get her to sleep on our bed.

 

Every night, before we sleep, we watch a dvd together (usually something from tv, serialised, like family guy or similar) and chat.

 

Really, we're in love for more than one anothers looks.  I like it when he dresses up.  he likes it when i wear a bit of eye-liner.  But neither of us expects it every day of our relationship or anything. 

post #34 of 160

I do not greet my dh at the door with a kiss because he is a cow farm worker and usually smells horrible.  I usually shout a "hi" from far away, and really dh likes the space when he comes home and a chat is not what he is up for.  I give him space as that is what he likes.  I can be smothering as I guess it is the lack of adult interaction during the day.  I wear pj's alot and like to feel comfortable.  I do get dressed up when going out though.

 

I wanted to add that for years my dh always was not fond of makeup and that is good because I don't wear any, but about a year ago, he said that he really likes lipstick.  I do likek it too but don't wear it often, but ocasionally I will put it on.  Yeah kind of cheesy.

post #35 of 160
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Originally Posted by goinggreengirl View Post

 He also said he'd be okay with coming home to find me naked.



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Dh would say the same thing.  Yeah right this will happen ever especially with kids runngin around.  Not EVER.  Well ask me agin when the kids are out of the house...

post #36 of 160

Well by the time DH gets home hopefully I've showered and dressed and brushed my hair, that's my morning routine and he gets home sometime between 5:30-10pm. I might be in a less then presentable outfit like PJ's or something (I sleep naked but throw on PJ's sometimes cause they're comfy). Might be in a hoodie if I got cold, that looks pretty sloppy I guess. I want to knit some pretty sweaters/ cardigans for myself to upgrade a bit. But generally I wear a nice t-shirt, leggings, and a long skirt every day. No makeup ever and I don't do anything to my hair.

 

I greet him with a hug and kiss after I finish whatever I was doing when he walked in and say "welcome home, how was your day?" or something.

 

When I return if I left him home (rare) I find him on the couch or in front of the computer in sweats amidst a big mess the kids made and saying "oh, hey" so I think I'm doing pretty well.

post #37 of 160
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Originally Posted by Getz View Post
  I am raising kids for this man, I wash his underwear, clean his toliet and cook his food.  (washing my hands in between tolieting cleaning and cooking, of course)  He can appreciate me for that, not what I am wearing while I do it.


This.

 

In our household, it's actually DP's duty to come find ME upon arrival home. I'm freakin' busy! He can come to me and give me a kiss!

 

and I wear whatever I feel like wearing that day. Usually it is the same black yoga pants and something I can nurse in. He comes home and trades his whole man outfit for shorts anyway.



Heck yeah!

I have 2 of the 3 kids put to sleep, the house put all back together and a homecooked meal ready for him. I still have about 45 minutes of work to do and a restless nursling to deal with. It's really hard to look like a happy movie star at that point.

I guess I just want to be pretty and cheerful to come home to.

I have to go clean out a throw up bowl now. Poor DS is sick. Good thing I have on the same clothes from yesterday.

I love being a mommy.

 

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post #38 of 160
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Originally Posted by goinggreengirl View Post

 He also said he'd be okay with coming home to find me naked.



biglaugh.gif

Dh would say the same thing.  Yeah right this will happen ever especially with kids runngin around.  Not EVER.  Well ask me agin when the kids are out of the house...


lol.gif Same here. I talked to dh about this thread last night and he thought it was hilarious. In his words, "don't you have anything better to worry about?" (me, not you all wink1.gif ). He said he could care less, but yes, greeting him naked is preferred if he had to choose. He wanted to know of the people who go all out-how many kids do you have? do you homeschool? do your partners work 12 hour shifts or something? I guess our homelife is just different because I can't imagine dolling up or greeting dh at the door on his irregular schedule every 2 hours. lol.gif

I feel the need to defend myself with everyone claiming they would be angry or offended by not being greeted on coming home. Dh works low hours and is home every 1-3 hours in and out through the day. He comes home, I say "Daddy's home" and my 3 yo runs to him. It's not like I snub him, but no, I'm not dropping everything to greet him. wink1.gif
post #39 of 160
Thread Starter 
This would only be a fantasy for me. Sweeping me into a kiss? Nah, never gunna happen.
The closest to that my DH gets is grabbing my butt.



 

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No, I hear you. My partner is the primary worker, but I work part time. It fills me with such happiness to come home to someone smiling at me, full of love and happy to see me. My husband certainly isn't trying to channel June Cleaver when he greets me at the door and sweeps me into a kiss. He is happy to see me, loves me, and wants to show it. Even if he's has a hectic day and our daughter is being a pill he still is so happy that I am home and wants to show me that. I love it and appreciate it!
post #40 of 160

I make a big deal when he comes home, but not in a "glammed up" way.  We stop what we're doing, pick up the house quick, and run down to meet him at the door.  It's the kid's favorite part of the day.

 

I don't dress up.  But I try to be at least clean and not stinky.  Change my t-shirt or something.  Dh is not looking for me to be gorgeous and glamorous (thankfully)

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