My original post had nothing to do with being a mommy martyr. If DH cared, then I would squeeze in a primping routine, but he doesnt- so why bother?
........ and when I had one kid- I did do the routine every day. I was just used to it.
Over the years my priorities changed. Hmmm, the baby is napping now- should I vacuum and dust, throw in the laundry, bake cookies for the kids, or use this only 40 minutes I'm gunna get to style my hair and put on make up? My choice. Dh is gone from 5:30 AM- about 9pm every day. Most people are probably in their pjs or sweats by the time he gets home anyway.
I am clean. I wash face, brush teeth, brush hair, put in pontytail everyday and shower 6 out of 7 days a week. There is usually 1 really rough day where it actually cant happen.
This had nothing to do with hygeine- just looking put together.
Here is a perfect example of why I dont bother:
Last night, for the first time in over a year I got dressed in a nice outfit, had makeup on, did my hair, jewelry and highish heels.
I had MIL come over so when DH got home we could go out for 1 hr just for a drink. DH was glad about that, but when he saw me, he didnt even say a word.
I asked him if he noticed how I looked. He said yeah, but why would you bother with that?
I really think it only matters what happens in the bedroom with some fancy underwear and the rest of the time I can look like plain sloppy Jane.
If he doesnt say I look nice, and doesnt care- why go through the trouble? Right? I feel like I wasted my time and I should have just folded the laundry and went out for a drink with my plain face and ponytail.
I think being a SAHM for 7 years is just making me feel like I've lost the girly part of me, but it's just not important enough to do anything but vent about it. Most of the time I dont think about it and I'm actually rather happy.
Now I'm off to fold that laundry.