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post #101 of 306

AFWife - I'm praying too.

 

I also agree with you on baptism and circumcision. To me those are matters of choice. Baptism is just a ritual. It's a ritual I like, and believe in doing, but it's not mandatory for salvation, IMO.

post #102 of 306

Well I am not God so I can't really say if it's mandatory for salvation but for me washing away my sins and being reborn with the holy spirit inside of me was the way to go. It was so liberating and joyous.

 

As for circ I always find a lot of confusion among Christians...a lot seem to think it needs to be done b/c Jesus was circ'ed but Jesus saved our sons. I can't quote verses off my head but there is definate scripture against circ after Jesus saved us. Also it was not a full foreskin amputation but rather a cut exposing the head in those days.

 

Also praying here hug2.gif

 

 

post #103 of 306

While circumcision is not mandatory and offers no spiritual benefits (the new testament is very clear about this as it is not OUR covenant) it also does not say you should not do it for any reason.  It just says you should not do it to try and earn favor with God.  If you want to do it for cosmetic reasons, or because you think it is healthier scripturally speaking there is no admonition against it. directly anyway.  

 

And there is a whole thread that address baptism.  

post #104 of 306

The apostles address circumcision in Act 15. It is not requried of the believer of Jesus for salvation. Jesus was circumcised because he and his family were/are Jewish. Jesus kept the law perfectly, so that He would take every curse of the law on himself. So that on the Cross he took away all curses of the Law.

 

As far as baptism if you love Jesus and follow him I believe that you want to show the WORLD.

post #105 of 306

Well said Naz that's what I had in mind that Jesus saved us from the law I just didn't know how to word it!

post #106 of 306

On another note I have a situation with a particular woman at my church. She works in the nursery 1 or 2 Sundays a month and takes care of DD. Now I am not sure how the church itself is about BFing b/c they just built a "nursing mother's room" that's the actual name...but this woman seems to ALWAYS attack me about BFing DD. First it started with OH MY GOD YOUR BFING LET ME GET YOU A BLANKET! I declined then it was YOU NEED TO TURN THE CHAIR AROUND IF YOU ARE NURSING the latest is IF MY HUSBAND EVERY SAW YOUR BREASTS WHILE YOU WERE FEEDING THAT BABY I WOULD LOSE IT! Every single week she is there she HAS to bring up how indecent I am for proudly nursing my DD....it is at the point that I am scared to go to church b/c I just can't take the harassment. I have tried to politely get the message across that I am NOT ashamed of doing what God gave me the power to do. I told her before "there is no shame in God and he wants me to nurse my baby" Seriously though I do it discretely. Last time I told her "you see more cleavage at the beach than you do with me nursing" and she basically jumped down my throat.

 

So WWYD? IDK how to even complain about this or whom to complain to.

post #107 of 306

I would see if having the "new" room helps. If not then you could bring someone with you to help her understand your side. Like in Matt. 11 but it might just come to that she is just like that. You know what I mean??

post #108 of 306

Honestly, while it would annoy me, I would use a blanket or go in the nursing room.  This is a chance to extend a little grace and practice submission to one another out of love.  Clearly she is deeply troubled by this.  I know it is silly for people to get bent out of shape about nursing but I always tried to  honor their discomfort by finding somewhere private.  I always appreciate it when people honor my silly stuff (like when they choose not to swear in front of me even though they think it is perfectly acceptable to talk that way).   In this situation I think the best thing you cold do is humbly go somewhere else to nurse.  I think you would be a great witness to her as to how Christians should live in peace and humility.  I do not think it would be inappropriate to make it clear to her that you are only doing it because of her discomfort though and let her know you are praying she will get a grip (ok maybe not the last part).

post #109 of 306
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Honestly, while it would annoy me, I would use a blanket or go in the nursing room.  This is a chance to extend a little grace and practice submission to one another out of love.  Clearly she is deeply troubled by this.  I know it is silly for people to get bent out of shape about nursing but I always tried to  honor their discomfort by finding somewhere private.  I always appreciate it when people honor my silly stuff (like when they choose not to swear in front of me even though they think it is perfectly acceptable to talk that way).   In this situation I think the best thing you cold do is humbly go somewhere else to nurse.  I think you would be a great witness to her as to how Christians should live in peace and humility.  I do not think it would be inappropriate to make it clear to her that you are only doing it because of her discomfort though and let her know you are praying she will get a grip (ok maybe not the last part).



I agree. I'm usually quite the lactivist BUT when it deeply offends someone like this it makes *me* uncomfortable. I'll nurse in front of my former college buddies who think it's "gross" but I won't nurse in front of DH's (former Assembly of God pastor) Grandparents who would probably be offended by it.

 

You don't have to go to another room (I HATE doing that. I don't like missing out on this) but maybe get a cute nursing cover?

post #110 of 306

Well the thing is too that she BF her DD until she was 7 y/o! So I'm like WTH? She went into detail that she used to take DD into a room that was empty turn off the lights and sit in a corner with her back facing the door so that "God forbid someone walks in they won't ask her what she's doing"

 

DD won't nurse with a blanket on her head and the "nursing mothers room" is completely seperate from the nursery and on the entire other side of the building so I would miss like 45 mins of church to just calm her down and give her a quick nurse so I could get back to the sermon. They do the rooms by age so she won't be two until Sept.

post #111 of 306

I was thinking maybe just nursing her in the hall and just saying something like "I know nursing makes you uncomfortable so I won't nurse her in here" Whenever I am nursing her in there it's if they call me b/c she is upset I don't just go in there nursing her KWIM?

post #112 of 306

Can I join in?!  I never considered myself crispy or crunchy...but I guess I am.  lol   

I am excited.....we found a great church and am slowly getting involved.  we just joined a study group that meets once school is out and the hosts of the group have small kids and another couple also has 3 kids and they are about the same age as ours.   The kids, even the baby love their sunday schools.  

post #113 of 306
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I was thinking maybe just nursing her in the hall and just saying something like "I know nursing makes you uncomfortable so I won't nurse her in here" Whenever I am nursing her in there it's if they call me b/c she is upset I don't just go in there nursing her KWIM?



I think this sounds ok. I agree with the others who said if nursing makes someone deeply uncomfortable I wouldn't do it in front of them.

 

Also, welcome Jenni! That's great you have found a church you all seem to love!

 

post #114 of 306

Hello everyone!! I am new to MDC, but not new to online forums, I frequent a few others. Anyway. I am Married to my wonderful Hubby not for almost 6 years, Together we have 4 children. We thought we were "done" and I got a tubal ligation done in 09'. I developed post tubal ligation syndrome, and ended up getting a reversal in march 2011. We are not TTC#5!!

=)

I am also I guess a "crunchy christian" I am a Essential oil freak, and a herbal nut! lol. 

Looking forward to getting to "know" you all better!

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post #115 of 306
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I was thinking maybe just nursing her in the hall and just saying something like "I know nursing makes you uncomfortable so I won't nurse her in here" Whenever I am nursing her in there it's if they call me b/c she is upset I don't just go in there nursing her KWIM?



That's weird that they would put the nursing moms room on the other side of the church! Maybe they were thinking for the moms who bring their babies into the service it would be easier?  If the woman in the nursery is seriously so upset about it I might just nurse in the hall too, although it might not help her calm down as I'm sure there are men walking through that hallway. Maybe you could tell her that your baby doesn't like to nurse under a blanket so you'll keep one handy, down your neck and belly, and angle yourself away from the door ready to "sheild" the view from any man who may come in and be offended???? I might talk to her and see if that would calm her down a little.

post #116 of 306

I still can't believe that someone who BF a baby until she was 7 y/o would be so sickened and offended by BFing...

post #117 of 306

Maybe it's an insecurity thing? You said she was worried her husband would walk in and see your breasts.

 

I have what I feel is a similar situation. Not directly at all but in humbling yourself for the benefit of someone else. I want to share here but don't know if my wording would be fair. It is within our family so I have emotions tied to the actions of the others. Trying to get a fair view of it.

post #118 of 306

How you feel about showing your breast, other women showing theirs etc has nothing to do with her being disgusted by breastfeeding.  A person can be really discreet/modest and still be all abot extended breastfeeding. She just sounds really modest.

post #119 of 306

OIC but then I feel she would be more deeply offended if I did just go in the hall...maybe she will just be satisfied if I drag a chair into the corner and turn it around or something

post #120 of 306

I'm confused....Where is this that she is tell you to cover up. If you feel like you are being modest and she is still having a problem then I still say that you need another person to help work it out. She is your sister in the Lord and you want to have a good relationship with her.

 

I have been making milk (w/o stopping) for almost 6 years. I have visted many churches in that time. I have always followed "rule" of that church. You may need to take the lower seat. 

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