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[Lisa1970]

I had my last baby at 39. I allowed myself to be bullied in to constant testing. It was awful. Then, I gave in to a repeat csect, even though I was good and ready for a vbac. I was stupid stupid stupid to allow myself to be bullied like that. I actually almost died from the csect. I still have complications now due to it.

I am 40 now and due when I am 41. I will not allow that endless yucky testing. I am even postponing my first visit. I am planning to use a doctor who is known for his VBACs and I already got approval from him to go to him. He is hard to get as a doctor.

[Aliy]

sounds like you have a plan Mama.

[strawberryprincess]

it's really hard to not beat ourselves up for what we feel are past mistakes.  I hope you can work through those feelings and find a way to forgive yourself. 

you are strong and are capable of deciding what is right for yourself and your baby!  I hope this doctor can achieve the pregnancy and birth you so badly want!

[orange_mommy]

You sound like a very strong woman!  Even very strong women can easily get bullied by people when they have to deal with the mainstream medical system so try not to look back and blame yourself at all!  It sounds like you know exactly what you want and are determined to strive for that goal this time and I am really excited for you!  You are inspiring! :D

[Mamatoabunch]

BTDT w/ my first. I vowed never to be bullied again, you can absolutely do this! I haven't much of any testing at all w/ the last 8. My last 8 were HBAC and the last 7 were UC.

[mclisa]

Us older and wiser mamas need to stick together!  Good luck and I hope you truly enjoy this pregnancy!