My children (age 6.5) have started begging - my son worse than my daughter. It’s driving me crazy and I am not handling it in the best way. The begging is almost always for junk food. We do not keep much in the house but I sometimes bake sweets, get ice cream from the co-op, they get some things from school (still have candy canes they rec’d at school), and Halloween candy which lasts throughout the year. (I wish I w/h done ‘switch witch’ from the beginning.)
The first thing my son says in the morning is something like…’Can I have a candy cane?’ If it is a weekend I say ‘yes’, a school day ‘not until after school’. But I do allow them to have a little every day but I limit the amount. They ask for more – repeatedly. Should I let them eat as much as they want until it is gone? I normally say no several times, then ask them to stop asking, etc. But lately I’ve said no twice and told them if they ask again I am throwing out the item…the thought of which causes them to cry.
Why are they so obsessed? Is it because I limit the items? Sweets were very limited in my house growing up and I did go a little crazy when I moved out on my own. I remember going to people’s house as a child and seeing donuts, cupcakes, etc. ignored on a plate on the counter. At my house we met my dad at the door as he returned from the bakery placing ‘dibs’ on our donuts. Both of my parents baked occasionally and limited how much we ate or else I think we w/h eaten it all in one night. Is it genetic? What is the best way to handle it?
When they were smaller – probably under three or four – they were rarely allowed junk at all unless we were at a birthday party or I baked for an occasion. As they get older I’ve been more lax about their diet. They were becoming a little obsessed about whether or not something is ‘healthy’. I wanted them to know you can have some unhealthy food and be fine. They also were showing an interest in things they’ve seen outside the home. Example, we are veggie and they were asking a lot about Jello – they saw it at a party. So I found a Jello w/out gelatin – they do not care for it. It’s not just sweet junk food. It can also be the pizza at Costco, veggie burgers at Burger King, etc.
They’ve never begged for items at stores, toys, anything else…just junk food.
Is this typical?
Wow, this ran a little long!