can not store anything at MIl's house she is a CHAIN SMOKER ewwww I hate going there and we very rarely do and only if she agrees to not smoke in the house ALL DAY before and after we get there, but last time we went DD had a horrible cough that night and for a few days and I told DH I just can't handle the 3rd hand smoke. The toys she gave us she is getting rid of b/c it's her, BIL, SIL, and our nephew (on the weekends, mom lost custody) all living in her small 2br apt...so she gives us her junk which I keep refusing...but it always manages to get here and then SIL (whom I despise) will literally question where every single toy is, as will my own sis and my BFF and my dad and anyone else who ever seems to get her anything...especially if they got her something appropriate like a wooden toy.
My BFF was here the other day and she got DD a wooden shape sorter (like $10 but still I appreciated it) like 5 months ago and she was like where is it? I was like IDK somewhere in this house we did just move I am trying to sort things out. She was pissed and was like you know I respected your wishes and got her something wooden and you don't even know where it is.
Anyways everyone does this to me. My sis brings home hand me downs from the girls at her work and will be like where is that cabbage patch kid I got from x?
Yes it is rude, but I have serious problems with confrontation (from past abuse) so I literally can not handle it. My other SIL recently asked for all this stuff back she had given me when I was pregnant! UMMM didn't know I was borrowing it...(and already got rid of it) I had a panic attack, and have been sick for days over it. Like seriously can not handle confrontation.
I do not have anyone I can give the clothes to. My BFF said I can keep our holiday decorations in her basement on a crate (it floods sometimes) but the clothes probably wouldn't be a good idea.
In the meantime, I discovered a cut out in the ceiling (in a closet) and am wondering if we do have an attic. There is nothing in the agreement saying we couldn't use an attic, but when we looked at the place the agency said there was no attic for use...I haven't looked up there yet...but come on if I have an attic it is tempting, even if I can only store a little!
BTW every time I ask for a specific toy (even sent with a link and stores it's sold at , pics, ect) we always seem to get something LIKE it but in a flashy plastic version...but actually MIL has been good in respecting what she buys at least.
I just have to make it adamantly clear that we don't want any more toys period. I hate it when people "don't want to deal with my specifics" and just buy clothes though b/c that sucks too.