Originally Posted by treeoflife3
I just spent two months living at my mom's house because I was visiting for the holidays and with husband deployed, there was no point in going for just a short time. by the end of the two months, I was actually wanting to claw my eyes out. I had planned to stay a full week later than I ended up staying... no way could I stay any longer.
I don't recommend you do it. Living with multiple generations in our society rarely seems to work out well based on everything I've seen on multiple forums.
Yea, I talked to DH, we will do our own thing. We are not so bad off that we need to make such a drastic change.
I stayed/visited my parents for about 6 weeks(after each baby) at least twice but I always feel comfortable. They both work and I have the house to myself, when they come home I use to be glad as DS would go upstairs with grandma and she would take the baby at times and I could sleep. I actually couldn't wait until they came home and my 17/18 year old sister was there too. They don't interfere with us and my dad really tries to show that he respect our decision in how we want to raise our children..although I might get the normal comments time from time that everyone gaves me (they can't have this..oh this missing out). The only thing I does miss is my familiar shopping stores, since they are in a caribbean islands with not that much choices of stores. The stores I do find with my products cost 3 times the amount.
But even with all that because my religious views have changed from theirs I do feel like I have to at least pretend I still have the important ones as to not end up in some type of debate or conversation. They don't even know the depth of how much it has changed, even my sister living with them keep somethings under cover it just keeps the peace more. We are still part of the religion as it is the closest we can find to our beliefs but at the same time we differ enough that we would be looked at as being true to it.
DH grew up living in multiple generations (and then raised by his grandma while his mom came to the states), but it was more like how apartments was they lived in a two story house where the downstairs and upstairs was like a separate apt. And my parents did for a few years also(about 3y.o), living in the downstairs apt. and my dad mom being upstairs. But that is different as I would do that since it is not actual living together in the same space. We was just always surrounded by family.