Due Sep 12th, want natural birth (as I did with 1st baby.) 1st baby was in hospital, not the best experience. Would like to try birth center but I'm nervous about the slight chance of a complication. They lost my 1sy baby's heartbeat and I had to be in one position with iv/oxygen for 12 hours---blood pressure shot up to 160 after. I'm torn...:(
2nd baby on the way
Hey, I'm due Sept 15, and I know how you feel about the being torn. I ended up with an C-section by no choice of my own and it's hard to imagine having a natural birth after everything that went wrong last time. I think that after everything that happened I'm going to just take things during the delivery as they come. All we can do right now is be hopeful. I hope that you are feeling well!
I think this thread might be for me! I too had a c-section with my first, fought it hard, but in the end I wasn't really given a choice. My son's head got stuck under my ribs at 26 weeks, I was confident he would turn. I tried everything you can imagine, I even went for two ECV's and was asking for a third, and yes they are excruciatingly painful but I was determined, but the OB and the midwife said it was pointless. The OB agreed to attempt a vaginal breech delivery, he was frank breech so this was a good option, but he had to be the one on call when I went into labor and the chance of that happening wasn't overly promising. The thought of a c-section was stressful enough for me so I wanted this OB because he was willing to let me make some requests, I wanted my arms free, I wanted to be able to hold and stay with my baby immediately after, things like that. I sobbed every day for the entire week before, still hoping he would turn, but no luck. My midwife was amazing, stayed with me the entire day, held my hand through the spinal, made sure my baby stayed in my arms, unless I was throwing up which I did a lot of, she even took pictures and videos for my husband and I. The worst part was I got so sick that they had to dope me into unconsciousness, I remember very little of recovery, or of trying to feed my son for the first time. This tormented me for weeks after. I'm ok with it now though and a friend of mine just recently had a very successful VBAC so that's my goal, with the knowledge that I will have to accept what comes. My main goal is to feel at least one real contraction. I have friends that have had c-sections and think it's no big deal, but for me it was, it was huge loss of the experience I wanted, plus recovery was very painful and very hard for me.
Sorry for the novel, but I am definitely having a hospital birth, but with my midwife, who I know will put my wishes and mine and my baby's best interests first, and because I know she can get me that OB again who left virtually no c-section scar! Though shortly after my sons birth the OB Society passed a rule where if a women is a good candidate for breech vaginal delivery then they have to allow her that choice to try, which is all I wanted the first time.