Why wouldn't a dad want to pay cs? - Page 3

[Goodmom2008]

Originally Posted by NolaRiordan 

Don't know if this adds anything to the discussion but I pay CS to my X. Of course I pay the court ordered amount (actually it's garnished from my pay) but I have to say it still irritates me that I have to pay. I have the higher income so I pay the support. I get that. We have 50-50 physical custody so the kids are in each of our households an equal amount of time. The reason it irritates me is be/c my X is fully educated and and qualified to get a job paying at least as much as I make but chooses not to. He chooses to work only part time and at a job that pays less than many others in his field. So because of his choices I have to pay money to him every month and it does not seem fair to me.

Did the court impute full-time income to him? If not, you may want to revisit child support with a different attorney. 

[NolaRiordan]

Originally Posted by Goodmom2008 

Originally Posted by NolaRiordan 

Don't know if this adds anything to the discussion but I pay CS to my X. Of course I pay the court ordered amount (actually it's garnished from my pay) but I have to say it still irritates me that I have to pay. I have the higher income so I pay the support. I get that. We have 50-50 physical custody so the kids are in each of our households an equal amount of time. The reason it irritates me is be/c my X is fully educated and and qualified to get a job paying at least as much as I make but chooses not to. He chooses to work only part time and at a job that pays less than many others in his field. So because of his choices I have to pay money to him every month and it does not seem fair to me.

Did the court impute full-time income to him? If not, you may want to revisit child support with a different attorney. 

The court didn't order it, but we agreed to an amount of imputation in mediation and the child support was then based on my real income and his imputed income. My lawyer said that was the best way to go. He said there was a risk the judge wouldn't impute him an income since he wasn't working the last several years of the marriage. So I know it could be worse. I try to tell myself that it's the tax I pay for having the life I have now.
 

[DasMaedchen]

speaking only from my personal experience,  it all boils down to "selfish and lazy".

[smeep]

Originally Posted by StephandOwen 

• They are just plain selfish and don't want to support a child they created.

This is the case with DS's biodad. Apparently because I could have had an abortion or put the baby up for adoption, which he wanted to do and I chose not to do, he felt that took him off the hook (morally at least) for child support. 

[justmama]

For some it's an "out of sight, out of mind" thing.  They can forget they created a child if they don't have to pay for them and think about them.  For us, my oldest child's father has paid for her for 10 years and hasn't physically laid eyes on her or spoken to her in 8 1/2 of those years.  Do I get it?  Nope.  I mean, the man pays his child support.  He lives just 2 hours away.  It's not like I've gone after him because he tried to skip out on paying.  He has consistently paid for 10 years now with only ONE bump in the road.  And when he lost his job recently, he let me know and told me he'd be paying out of pocket until he got a new job and the garnishment kicked in again.  But he has no desire to even call her on her birthday?  I mean, I'm so baffled I can't even be angry.  I just don't understand, can't wrap my brain around it.