My dd is 2 years and 2 months - he is half white and half African so she has tightly curly hair.
I always comb it when she is in the bath so I can load it up with conditioner and she can be distracted with her bath toys. I'm never able to get it fully combed out because she screams/fights so she always wears it in pigtails.
she will start screaming and pushing my hands away as soon as I try to take the hair bands out before I have even done anything.
There are days when she plays happily and lets me comb it, so I know it's not unbearably painful. But lately it's been an incredible struggle and I'm never even able to get her whole head combed out so that makes the problem even worse because it gets so tangled.
I am seriously considering cutting it super short but I love her hair and especially the way it looks in pigtails. she never screams when I am actually putting her hair up after bath, just when she's in the bath.
I've thought about trying to change up the routine and comb her hair at another time but I really don't think I could do it without massive amounts of conditioner.
Today I cut some of it that was a little longer but kept it long enough to get it into pigtails, I am hoping that might help but I'm not too hopeful.