Okay, the deal is I had my 20 week ultrasound today and we are having a third boy. I am fine with this for myself (even happy, even relieved), and so is DH, but I am very, very upset about all the comments I know we will get from others. Having children of all one sex is considered undesirable and a kind of failure. I could try to deny that if I wanted to, but I'm not oblivious. I used to be one of those people who felt sorry for people with three boys or three girls (or more), AND I already got stupid comments after having a second boy, so I know the attitude exists and is very common. So in addition to having the burden of bearing my MIL's sixth grandson in a row and all the pressure and disappointment that comes with that, people are going to be making asshat remarks whenever they ask and I tell them it's a boy. We've already been getting the whole "oh, are you hoping for a girl this time?" line for the past however many weeks. I'm SICK OF IT!!!!!
Why do people say stupid things about the sex of a new baby? Why, why, why? I was going off to my parents about this the other day and my mom was all, "they don't mean anything by it," and I know they don't mean anything against me personally but I really don't need people's pity! I'm offended for myself and I'm offended on behalf of my poor third son because apparently he's so uninteresting and disappointing because my other two children also have penises ... as if he's not a unique human being because of the sex of my first two kids.
I know this is probably just pregnancy hormones working overtime, and I'm not normally one to care too much what other people think about things, but for some reason I am really, really bothered by this. Can anyone either reassure me that the comments will stop at some point? or either regale me with stories of the dumbest things people have ever said to you and your witty retorts! That will help cheer me up. :)