Originally Posted by PlayaMama
$8 bike on craigslist
obviously not the best bike but it looks like it has two wheels and works.
also, why do you have to call him to set something up? he never follows through. just have your dad go out there and get it with the police. be done with it.
Thank you for posting that! Unfortunately it's since been deleted. :(
My intent on calling (rather, leaving a message) was so I could officially send "warning" about it. I was thinking more on CYA terms but I suppose that if it ever came down to it, the fact that I've already made attempts to work it out with him would pretty much cancel it out, huh? I guess I'll just have my dad be the one to leave a message, if I even bother. At least I know the days he works... if he's not there, my dad can still get the bike (it will be outside), I even have a key to the place if the officer will let my dad go in, and he does have some mail of mine (I'm afraid my W2 as well; my change of address hasn't seemed to have gone through so I had to fill out another one Saturday) but my dad knows where he works and I believe ex has been keeping my mail in his car.
Originally Posted by pupsnelda
Smeep, I get that your really want/need THIS bike. Ok, fair enough. But why don't you answer the question why you don't let somebody handle the issue of getting your bike back? Really, if I was living somewhere in the States and close to you, and just being an acquaintance of you, I would get the bike for you, I would do it in a heartbeat and I WOULD GET IT. So, if even a stranger like me can does stuff like this for somebody else, and I have done things for friends, family, acquaintances to help them out because I was not involved in the situation, so I could be haaaaard and it was much easier for me because I was not emotionally involved, why can't/won't you consider asking somebody to take care of this subject?
I could care less about it being this particular bike, so long as it's a bike that can get me somewhere...there's actually two and, if they can fit, I do want both but I'm willing to leave one of them because, obviously I don't need two and I have to take what I can get, but because the second isn't the best quality (as in it kinda really sucks lol) and needs serious fixing up. And now (as mentioned above) I'm afraid that he has my W2. But, yes, my dad will be going to retrieve it, not me. I've already said that, but I'm sure it was probably easy to miss.
Originally Posted by pupsnelda
Quote: But I don't want anything to do with him. I DON'T want to contact him.
So, again, DON'T CONTACT HIM. DO NOT CONTACT HIM. LEAVE HIM ALONE. If there is no way of getting another bike from somewhere else, searching, asking around, talking to people, then delegate the task to get your bike back to you to somebody else, INCLUDING ALL COMMUNICATION about the fact that bikes needs to come back to you, negotion of time, etc. AND picking it up.
My dad will be taking care of it, not me. There will be no contact between myself OR my family and him after this weekend, as I've said before. I've already told him I'm moving, my family knows that if he calls to tell him that I'm not there and that they won't give out information, he's been removed from my facebook for months now and I don't think he even has my email address.
My contact with him is officially done, contact from my family will be over this weekend. But I'm worried that he'll try to stick around anyway. Part of me thinks that, because of the way he treated us, that he really doesn't care... but then he said what he said. One can only hope that it was just him getting riled up because ex-fiance-now-gf-again or someone said something, but it just shows that I really can't put anything past him (I suppose I needed that reminder). In fact, I really worry about her being around...not because I care one bit who he dates, the alcoholics can have each other, but for the fact that he has not ever asked me about the baby but, when I went to get the bulk of my stuff a few weeks ago, SHE asked me about the baby. How is everything going, is there anything I need... basic simple stuff. I took it as her just playing nice (which I'm sure she was doing regardless) but I worry that she's going to push him because she wants him to have his kid, or some BS like that. I almost moved to Oklahoma when he kicked me out and left me without anything to just figure it out myself and acted as if he couldn't have cared less... but, then again, maybe he had plans to try for custody anyway. I don't know, I just really don't know. And now the fact that the stupid change of address didn't go through and he might have my W2 really freaks me out. I could get a new one but my main worry is that if he has it then he has my social security number which would make it easier for him to take me to court. Here's to hoping that my dad gets it back and it's unopened.
If it helps you guys any, I do fully regret procrastinating on all of this. I should have just sucked it up and bugged my dad to help me go get the stuff in September/October...just gotten it all and been done with it. I let it go on too long. Yes, it was because I can't stand to see him or talk to him and I was putting it off because of that, but I still shouldn't have. And you guys are right that I shouldn't have any further contact myself, which is why I've made the decision to have my dad take care of it. I'm hopeful that I can clear my mind after this weekend... I know I'll be "closing the book" but I'm just really hoping I can clear my head again (it hasn't been a problem most of the time since it all ended but the past few days I've been thinking about it a lot because I'm nervous about this weekend and what he said freaked me out).
Anyways... like I said, my dad will be making the call and my dad will be getting my stuff this weekend. My contact IS done and my family's contact will be done this weekend. I'd really rather not go over the "you don't need the bike/have someone else get it/etc." stuff anymore... I am taking in what's been said, and while some of it has really pissed me off to be frank lol, some of it has been very helpful. Thank you.