No idea if this is the right forum for this topic, but I really just need to vent!!!
My DS is 23 months and I am still nursing. I didn't know much when I was pregnant, I was just planning on nursing because it seemed natural. I went through a really tough time but stuck with it -- it just didn't seem right to stop. And here we are, still nursing at 23 months, for so many reasons. It works for us. We love the health benefits. My son is in love. The bonding is glorious. etc. etc.
Now to the in laws. My SIL had her baby (the first of the family) 3 months before mine. She is also almost 10 years older than me. So basically, she has set the precedent for how to parent in the family (large family -- all live together except for us in another state). She did CIO. Her baby sleeps in a crib. She breasfed, but stopped promptly at 6 months (like my MIL did with all her kids). Which is cool with me. Their choice.
Us? We cosleep. We breastfeed. Still. Our choice.
Last time we visited, SIL told me in front of all the other relatives that cosleeping is ruining his development. She also asked me point-blank when and how I have "intimate time" with my husband if he is in my bed! In front of all the other relatives, including MIL and BILs!!!
My MIL makes comments about how nursing a toddler is strange. On top of this, I really think that they all think I have some emotional/sexual complex which is why I am still nursing and sleeping with my son!! How offensive!
This is on my mind because we are going to visit in 3 weeks. I have kind of had the idea of weaning at around 2 years (for many reasons) for a while. Which will be close to the time we visit. I am feeling pressure to wean before we visit, because I just know that I am going to be painted as the freak while I am there! Ugh. Or I know that if I don't wean, I'm going to sound apologetic when I'm there like by saying "Oh well, we're weaning as soon as we get back home."
Please help me build up some confidence and good phrases to say to defend myself and my child.
Please commiserate or be sympathetic to me! I hate this!