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post #21 of 28

I am sorry you are having to deal with this and I hope your visit goes/went well. If it were me and they chose to continually criticize my parenting styles I would simply stop being around them. Life is too short and there is no reason why you have to subject yourself to the stress of being questioned about choices that are yours to make. If they ask why you haven't come around tell them that as soon as they can act like adults and keep their opinions to themselves you would be happy to visit with them again.

post #22 of 28

I have had similar problems.  I generally go with, "He'll/She'll probably stop nursing before puberty."  It generally ends the conversation.  I am a little snarkier when it comes to the I am trying to shame you questions.  So something like, "Sweetheart, it is not polite to discuss marital relations in mixed company, but I can explain these things to you later dear."  Then I would look to the  other adult women in the house and cluck my tongue and shake my head (can you tell I live in the south?)  Or, Since you only breastfed for 6 monthd, I know you don't understand the importance of breastfeeding, but I have some great reading materials for you, if you would like to learn.

 

however, since they are your in laws, you might want to be nicer to them than that.  It is great your hubby is standing up for you.

post #23 of 28

Ugh, I'm so sorry that you went through that.  Sometimes family can be so unsupportive *big hugs to you*

 

Last year I was nursing my 26 month old at my inlaws.  They brought up that I should feed him in the guest bedroom without heat or the bathroom but I was NOT ok with that.  I told them no, I was fine at the dining room table with everyone else.  MIL was so upset she called the cops!  I just could not believe it shake.gif  I mean who does that?!?  Anyway, the cops took one look at me, turned red, mumbled something to MIL, and left soon after shrug.gif

post #24 of 28
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Ugh, I'm so sorry that you went through that.  Sometimes family can be so unsupportive *big hugs to you*

 

Last year I was nursing my 26 month old at my inlaws.  They brought up that I should feed him in the guest bedroom without heat or the bathroom but I was NOT ok with that.  I told them no, I was fine at the dining room table with everyone else.  MIL was so upset she called the cops!  I just could not believe it shake.gif  I mean who does that?!?  Anyway, the cops took one look at me, turned red, mumbled something to MIL, and left soon after shrug.gif

 

Oh. My. Gosh. THE COPS?????? yikes.gif

I have never heard a nursing story like that one! Good for you for sticking it out! I will keep that in mind when I go visit them next weekend......I really will! Thanks

post #25 of 28

OMG I am surprised the cops even came! WTF she should have charges pressed on her for calling without reason!

 

Over my dead body would I ever see her again!

post #26 of 28
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Originally Posted by catfood View Post

Ugh, I'm so sorry that you went through that.  Sometimes family can be so unsupportive *big hugs to you*

 

Last year I was nursing my 26 month old at my inlaws.  They brought up that I should feed him in the guest bedroom without heat or the bathroom but I was NOT ok with that.  I told them no, I was fine at the dining room table with everyone else.  MIL was so upset she called the cops!  I just could not believe it shake.gif  I mean who does that?!?  Anyway, the cops took one look at me, turned red, mumbled something to MIL, and left soon after shrug.gif



WOW That would be the last time I would ever visit my MIL's

post #27 of 28

Did you visit yet?  How did it go?

post #28 of 28
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The visit is coming up here soon. i'll keep you all posted.......

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