Handwriting is something that I have always struggled with. I was also a child who didn't do much beyond what I had to do unless it was required of me and my dd is the same way in both regards. My mother had years of conferences where she was told that I was really smart and could be an A student if I wanted to be and she never found a way for me to want to be (I did find a way to motivate myself through college though and will start grad school next year still motivated).
I remember feeling so dumb because I would just skip over a lot of stuff that wasn't important to me and I got lower grades that way, I would miss words and letters, and my writing was always awful. Until my dd started school I didn't realize that anyone had seen potential in me. My mother told me once I started getting the same conferences she had with me. Since my dd has the same struggles with writing and the same struggle to care about things she finds boring (and school finds important to master) I make sure to tell her how well she is doing and how well she can do. When her teacher told me that all my dd needs to do to raise her grade in math is to focus we talked about that and she made a plan. When her writing is suffering and her grades get low I point out where she should focus her attention to pick up the grade.
It is frustrating to be the parent going through this, but it was also frustrating to be the child dealing with this too so I really suggest telling him where he can improve and asking him to make a plan but not acting out of your frustration. Because he is not suffering academically they may see it as something he doesn't need accommodations for. You may want to talk to the special education teacher at the school to see what constitutes an academic need for an IEP, but I don't think that a B or even a C will be it even if he can do a lot better. You may have some success asking the teacher to work with him so he can find a quiet place to do his work without having kids asking him for help so he can do his best.
Edited by One_Girl - 1/21/11 at 4:00pm