How do you tell?
Lately he's been pushing his afternoon nap back further and further, and it's to the point where we're pushing bedtime back later and later as a consequence. DH is getting mad (at DS and me) because he thinks DS should be in bed by 7 so DH can have his evenings to do whatever he wants (he just signed up for school, so he's going to be doing homework at night).
For example, yesterday DS pushed his nap back to about 3. So he didn't get up until almost 5. He was showing signs of tiredness, so we started bedtime routine about 7:15, I started actual bedtime by maybe 7:30, but I didn't get out of there until just at 9. He was all over the place, barrel rolling, up and down, babbling, etc. And each time I thought he was asleep and I'd start to sneak away he'd grab for me. So it took a full 90 minutes to get him to bed last night. Well, that means we don't eat dinner until 9:20 or so (luckily dinner was already ready before I started bedtime - that's not usually the case). And then DH starts his own bedtime around 10 or 10:30.
*I* feel like DS is getting enough sleep. Last night let's say he went down at 9. He was up at 8 this morning (which is actually late for him). He just went down for his nap at 2:00. With luck, he'll sleep until 4, putting us right on track for a 7:00 bedtime tonight. I guess the main problem is it isn't consistent. I follow his cues as to when he naps - and actually some days I start trying to put him down at 11, but don't actually succeed until several hours later.
I guess I really just need to know if this is normal - the schedule all over the map? I feel like some days I'd just be better off not putting him down at all and just starting bedtime at 5 or 5:30. But those last few hours are horrible if I do that.
Thoughts? Commiserations? Advice? What can I tell my DH?