I'm still trying to work through all of this in my head. I thought that I didn't care this time, but when the ultrasound tech said boy I almost started to cry, so obviously I have not gotten past it. I am just wondering why we feel this way when in so much of the world, boys are favored. I will start: I want to have close relationships with my adult children, and I feel that there is very little chance of that with boys. That they will move away, get married, and never call me. Also their wives will hate me and keep them away from me. So basically, that I will have spent all these years of my life being a mother and get nothing in return. I know there are exceptions, but this is my fear. I could care less about shopping, planning a wedding, playing dress up, and stuff like that. I'm really focused on the adult relationship. I guess my secondary fear is that they will end up being sexist/misogynist which would absolutely kill me. Anyone else have thoughts? Why do you want a daughter?
ETA: Obviously there are no guarantees that I would have an adult relationship with a daughter, and I have many fears about parenting a girl as well (which are probably moot because we will obviously never have one). But I just feel like a door has been closed.