Thank you Cynthia!
Why do women prefer girls & feel disappointed about having sons? - Page 3
I totally get the thoughts of the OP. I bawled when I found out DS1 was a boy. Of course I feel so incredibly silly now - I adore my little boy and wouldn't trade him for a zillion girls. For me, I think there was some fear in not knowing how to raise a boy. Now I have two of them and I was so excited to have a second little boy. I would like a little girl someday, but I think boys are super fun!
This question came as a surprise to me, because I didn't realize there was a big preference one way or another. I can tell you, though, that my son brought indescribable joy into my life, and is still an amazing blessing now in his adult years. And there are lots of special times you can have with a son that wouldn't be the same with a daughter - just as the reverse is true. I loved every bit of the time he was growing up, and have been so moved to see what a lovely and respectful person he is.
I was just thinking today about the email he sent me when I was far away on vacation, saying a neighbor had called him to warn us that the city left a note threatening to tow my car if it didn't get moved by the time road work started in the morning on our block. He was about to head out at midnight to drive the 3 to 4 hours to my place to see what he could do about getting it moved. He said, "If there isn't a key there somewhere, or if you get this too late, please don't worry - there's only so much it can cost if it gets towed, and some things are unavoidable. Just relax and enjoy your vacation." "Some things are unavoidable"? I'm getting that kind of sage advice from someone a fraction of my age, and that person is my son? I get this kind of loving wise advice from him all the time, and he's been this way all his life - an ongoing blessing. I have friends, on the other hand, who went through some very, very, very trying times with their daughters' tempers and lack of compassion during the teen years, but not their sons - which is not always the case, of course.
But all in all, the love, affection, and respect you give your son or daughter will come back multiplied. - Lillian
Edited by Lillian J - 7/24/11 at 10:00pm
Wow, I can't believe that a troll revived this thread, but thank you Cynthia for stepping in.
My third son arrived on June 1, and I can't imagine life without him. I do feel incredibly lucky to have three healthy children and I thank the lord every day for my beautiful family. I still get the pity looks and comments from other people, which is super annoying, but whatever. Although I did have one young mom say to me a few days ago, "you are so blessed to have three little boys!" I wanted to kiss her! :)