I have 2 csections with my boys which went in a pretty similar way.
First one - 2007 failed hospital "natural" birth. My son was 1 week post EDD, born 8pds 12 oz, 21 1/4 in after 24 hrs labor. I went in labor on my own, nice strong contractions, but I went to the hospital too early and they didn't like the way I was progressing. So after 10 hrs they put me on Pit and broke my water. I couldn't handle the pain after that so I asked for epidural. The epidural didn't work well for me but gave me a fever as an extra so after another 10 hrs the Dr. decided to go ahead with the c-section due to maternal fever and FTP. I stopped at 6 cm and didn't progress for hours. My son was high and never dropped.
Birth#2 - 2011, failed HBAC, failed hospital VBAC and repeated c-section. I went in labor on my own, a week after my EDD. Just to mention that it happen the exact same day as DS1 bday. My water broke at 8 pm. I started having contractions 2 hrs later, slept for few hrs and got up to get things moving. My MW arrived around 6 am in the morning, I was already in a lot of pain. It wasn't pressure, or waves, it was pure pain that was trying to rip me apart. Contractions were 1-1,5 min long and 3-5mins apart. Around 10 am I couldn't stand it anymore and asked for an internal exam to see how far I am. Just 4 cm but stretchy 6-7 cm. Only 80% effaced and baby getting lower in the pelvis. I tried everything possible - affirmations, pool, shower, hands and knees, leaning forward, toilet, stairs, rebozo, inversion..... At 5pm I was 6 cm and still 80% effaced. MW said DS2 is malpositioned and that's why I dilate so slow. I also had a thick cervical lip on the front. She massaged it with EPO and helped the dilatation to 9.5cm. I had to push with the contractions to get the baby lower so his head can go past the lip. Boy, that hurt like crazy. I never felt pushy. Around 6pm I started running a fever so MW asked me to transfer to the hospital for antibiotics. We ended up there around 7- 7.30 pm and I was hooked up for IV, monitor, blood pressure machine. After another 3 hrs I was back to 8 cm and still 80% effaced. They said the risk of rupture is getting bigger with the increased time of labor + the baby is too big and malpositioned. So we went for another csection. DS2 is 9pds 4 oz and 21 1/4 in.
Nobody can give me an answer why. The OBGYN says my pelvis is too small. I don't think so. I am 5'4'', normal size.
MW thinks my pelvis is OK but the baby was malpositioned. I did chiropractic care and Spinning babies through the pregnancy with DS2, I don't know what else I could've done. And the position doesn't completely explains why I get such a slow dilation overall.
We want more kids but I wouldn't go for a third csection. My homebirth was a complete fiasco though, so my husband who was against it at the first place, won't even discuss it. On top of that we paid $5000 out of pocket, money which were earned with hard work and could've been spent on things for the family. I am not even sure that I will be able to find a provider who will attend a VBA2C in my case. It seems I grow strong and healthy babies but I cannot bring them to this world on my own.