Edited by mymaybaby05 - 3/10/11 at 11:31am
It hasn't been that long, but we mainly just have my husband's friends over. I don't really care what they think of my house. I used to be a lot more embarrassed than I am now. I have different priorities now. Cleaning my house has gone down on that list.
My house may not be perfect but it is presentable enough to have company. We have my kid's friends stay over quite often.
Is your main problem that your place is not clean, or have you got a hoarding problem?
We frequently have people for dinner on Friday nights.
I just don't care that my house is never perfect. I used to. I would put off having company. Now, I assume our friends are coming over because they love us, not because they love our house, yk? Same thing with meals. We have whatever we can afford because our friends are coming over to visit, not for a gourmet meal.
Most of my friends are 'cleanies' and I used to be very intimidated by having them over. However, they are in a completely different place than I am. I have six kids, three are 4 and under, a mentally disabled adult and a husband in full-time ministry (read his time is not his own). I cannot do it all and no one can expect me to. If they want to visit me, then they will just have to refrain from judging because my house is not as clean as theirs. And they do.
If I could have a half hour warning before friends came over I would be happy to have them over any time!
But it has been a LONG time since I have felt good about having an unannounced drop in. :(
Invite someone to come over in a week and use that as motivation. Then, think how good they will feel about their presumably more tidy place, after they see yours. It's good for their self esteem, lol. Things are better around here, lately, because we've been hosting people every week or two. I can usually get the place in shape in a few hours or less (with little to no maintenance in between visits). The kitchen counter is rarely cleared of it's piles, but crumbs are wiped, bathrooms are clean, floors are swept or vacuumed, and there is a comfortable place to sit. Good enough. Don't let perfectionism be your enemy!
right now I'm hosting knitting on Mondays, in fact I do it every year from Jan-March. I just don't worry about the state of my house. I hosted T-giving dinner as well, with the dining room cluttered with boxes and toys.
Frequently. Our house is in no way perfect, but I can get the main spaces pretty clean within a couple of hours. All the laundry may not be washed and put away and the playroom may be impassible, but I don't think that has anything to do with having people over for dinner.