I'm sure this question gets asked a lot, but I wanted to know your opinion nonetheless.
My partner and I have decided to start looking into conceiving a child. We know that it can be a long process, so we decided to start now regardless of the length. We decided a long time ago I would be the first one trying for a baby and confirmed it many times over the time that we have been together. We are curious about where exactly we should start.
I am a young healthy woman with irregular periods. When I was in my young teens I went to the doctors about it and they told me I was perfectly normal without anything to worry about. My periods are usually 81 days apart from what I have been keeping track of (I keep track of them on my iPhone), but sometimes they are more 'normal' than that. I know that this may cause us some issues trying to conceive. Apart from my irregular periods, I am in pretty perfect health. I eat right, treat my body as if it was sacred, and keep active.
A downside is that since I am a nanny, I don't have insurance. She has amazing insurance with her job, but it may be a while to get me on her's. We have to jump through a couple ropes due to being a lesbian couple in a state that doesn't recognize gay marriage or any other type of recognition. Though, if we had a child, they would be able to get on her insurance. And beyond that, we want to do this as 'naturally' as we can. I've read up on ICI and IUI at home, and it is something we would be interested in. The only problem is the sperm bank that we are looking into (Midwest Sperm Bank) needs a doctor's signature. I would love to find a midwife to help us with this, but I can't seem to find if there are any midwives in the Louisville area. I mean, we could always have my partner say that the sperm if for her, but that's not very honest.
I guess my main question is, if you were in our situation what would you do? Are there any recommendations you would have for us? Also, any help in determining ovulation with irregular periods? Any help is more that greatly appreciated.