I just got my BFP and I'm happy and hoping to have our first baby in October! I can't wait!
I had a MC with my first pregnancy last May. I was at 12 weeks when I MC (the baby died at 6 weeks). At the time of the MC, I had told only my parents and about 5 of my closest friends. I was going to tell everybody in a week but then I miscarried, was so sad, and was really grateful I didn't have to un-tell people. Having to tell my folks and close friends the sad news was so so hard. I don't think I could tell that kind of news to regular people/co-workers. I am very glad I had told these important people though because to have their support helped us through that dark time. I am also very glad the world did not know because every time you have to share the sad news, you have to relive it.
It took until now (Jan) to be ready to TTC again (emotionally and physically). And with our first try it worked! This time around, I feel 50% total joy and embracing the pregnancy, and 50% total fear and caution that it won't stick. So, I will most likely wait until 16 weeks to tell anybody. That isn't true, I already told my best friend because I know I'll need her support if I do MC. And because it is such great exciting news!! But I really don't want to put my parents through the emotional cycle again in the unlikely chance that I do (please no) MC again....I don't want to break my mom's heart again. Also, I know when I do tell my parents, they'll embrace the news with happiness and total joy, but I can't help but feel a little "never cry wolf"-ish. I don't want to tell them and then make them feel "cautious" too. I'm okay to feel cautious for myself, but I want them to feel secure.....so I will wait for the 2nd trimester to announce our big exciting news to them. And then, eventually, with the world...
My advice: Wait as long as you can and enjoy the special news with just you and your partner. Sometimes a secret is even more special! Cherish this time! And when you are ready to share your news, share it with people you love very much. Tell people you trust and who will support you --in the chance that you do MC. (But I am sure you won't- think positively!!!) It is such a private thing to MC, and I wouldn't want that weird co-worker to say "Sorry, but you know that is common, right? My wife...blah blah..." It was hard enough hearing that from my beloved, caring, supportive best friends. You don't want to have to explain it to people who don't care in the first place.
One more thing: after going through a MC when many people around me are getting pregnant, (other co-workers/other friends/random people) I sometimes-secretly- took it really hard when I heard the news of their joy. Of course I was happy for them, but the MC experience taught me (among other things) to be sensitive to other people's situations- even if you don't know what they are. Of course people will say "Congratulations!" when you announce your great news. And they will (they better be) sincerely happy for you!! But secretly, they might feel pain or a reminder of their loss. And you may not (will l likely not) know it, so just be sensitive-- because you don't know what people have gone through, and what they want too.
I fear I just sounded like Debbie Downer - sorry. I hope what I said helps you in your decision about when/how you share your AWESOME news! It is miracle! Celebrate! Congratulations!!!!
Warmly and sincerely- congratulations!! October Babies are coming!!