If you had a hospital birth, do you recommend having an epidural or not? If you had an internal version, did you have an epidural or go med-free? How did you handle the internal version and what was it like?
Background: I had a home waterbirth with my 2yr old DD and LOVED it! Now that I am pregnant with twins, I spoke with several of the midwives in my state, and they are saying it would be best if I chose an OB. They are trying to lay low and not take on "higher" risk births basically because the laws in my state are difficult to deal with. If anything goes wrong, it could lead to their arrest and midwifery being made completely illegal. Only 2 of the midwives were willing to take me on, but one of them is very anti-doctor (I am not) and sort of scares me with her philosophies a little. The other was very expensive and we just cannot afford it since my insurance will cover all but $1600 of the hospital birth.
I have decided to go with an OB whom several MoM's recommended to me, as well as one of the midwives. Last year he delivered 7 sets of twins and only 1 set had a c-section. He also delivered a set of VBAC triplets! In talking with him, he mentioned that if one of the twins is transverse or breech, he would do an internal version and pull the baby out by the ankles. I then said, "if you do that, I'll want an epidural. Normal labor/delivery is hard enough but do-able, but the thought of you sticking your hand up inside my uterus sounds more than I could handle!" His reply was, "It will last about 30 seconds and then will be over. You don't have to have an epidural if you do not want one. You will already be open from the first baby anyway."
When I was in labor last time, I wanted everyone to leave me alone, not tell me what to do unless stated slowly and clearly using few words. And I did not want anyone touching me, let alone touching my vaginal area. I'm not a private person, I just wanted to focus on relaxing and staying on top of the contractions. I am trying hard to create a positive outlook for myself on the atmosphere I know will be at the hospital. I want peace and quiet when I'm pushing, and no one to tell me what to do, but I know I NEED to look at the nurses as cheerleaders cheering me on. I'm just trying to make the best out of a situation that I wouldn't have chosen but cannot help.
Please share your experiences/thoughts. Thanks!