The Wicked Awesome -ONE THREAD- 1.23 to 1.29

[nicolian]

WELCOME TO THE "ONE" THREAD  for January 9th - January 15th!!!!! 

 

posted by alexisyael in 2004:

The One Thread is designed for all on the MDC board. No matter where you are in your cycle, you are welcome to join the One Thread! We are also open to those who are "Waiting to be Ready" for one reason or another. We continue to embrace those of us who have become pregnant as well. Feel free to jump in at any time and introduce yourself!

To help keep the list current and manageable, you will be deleted after a month of not posting.

If you would like to be a threadkeeper please let this week's threadkeeper know!

Please make change requests in Bold.

Waiting to O

amberbella

baileyann3

becoming 

CNM2B

femmeknitzi

Hykue 

impchild
Jaclyn7

MommyMatsumoto     

Mummoth

not_telling

Sourire 

Stevi     

Taxlady

truemeli

urchin_grey

vtechmom 

 

Waiting to Know (2ww)

Attached2Elijah 

Calycanth  

HopefullyMama

Kay99

ktbug87 

littlest birds 

Lydiah 

musicoholic 

Nicolian

TalkToMeNow 

TTCChloeOrConner

Veronika01

VJSJ

Xerxella

yellowdart 

  Waitin' and Marinatin'
  

Waiting for Aunt Flo

 

Waiting for my otherwise-wonderful-but-on-this-particular-subject-ultimately-infuriating partner to be ready   
jojobean   

 WTF IS GOING ON?!?! 

gozal
crazykittymomma

chicajones

Waiting to be Ready 
brichole1214

sleepingbeauty

cbaa2010

vivica2 

 ~ GRADUATES~ 

Big congrats to you all!!

January BFP's!

ValH 

MelungeonMW  

Mommy2b4

LovingBaby

FarmerCathy

December BFPs!

rockymtnmama 

LadyJennifer 

love4bob

Sarah2881

~savah~

jillybeans

callieollie

bonadl2

November BFPs!
CLH_X3 

LivingSky 

motray36 

SoonToBe

Tear78 

SML27 

MrsMike

October BFPs!
swimming-duck 
karmab 

September BFPs!
bolobear 
slb1107
annaconda
outsideofthebox
mija y mijo
elonwy 
ryleeee
Michaels-Mommy
GolfAddict 
KingsDaughter76 

August BFPs!
babygrey 
Blanca78 
Wembles 

Edited by nicolian - 1/30/11 at 4:00pm

[StephandOwen]

JERI (Attached2Elijah)- where are you? What are you up to lately?

[Mummoth]

Thanks for the new thread! Nothing exciting happening with me, but here's the link to my chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/29267

[HopefullyMama]

Thanks nicolian 

Just updating, I'm 10 dpo, and my IC's stilllll aren't here.  Hoping they will be here sometime tomorrow, but maybe it's best if they don't come yet, and I don't waste any??  We'll see.  Just hanging out, trying not to stress 

[toothfairy2be]

Thanks for the new thread nicolian. Nothing new here either, just letting the days pass on by. Hoping for some bfp's soon to keep me occupied! Good luck ladies!

[TalkToMeNow]

Got crosshairs today!  Can I please be moved to Waiting to Know?  Thanks!  And thanks for the new thread.

[CDsMom1031]

Hi, ladies. Thanks for the new thread, Nicolian.

This is not TTC related, but I need to vent... And since there's no one I know awake at 8am, I'm venting here. =D

I'm getting married in March. Like, a month and a half away. I'm totally not an a-typical female, don't care about the wedding, blah, blah, blah. SO. We're going to Vegas. We're getting the whole package (Flight, hotel, marriage license, wedding) for less than $2000. Granted, that's not food, alcohol, gambling, fun, but STILL... It's cheap.

Okay. So we plan on using my DH's tax refund to book the trip and paying the rest out of pocket. I've been up all night (Literally, I couldn't sleep.) researching about tax refund policies. My parents still claim me. It makes me SO mad. I haven't lived at home for 4 years. The only kind of financial anything that connects me to them is my health insurance, but being on my Dad's health insurance doesn't affect his price. The price of his insurance is the same, regardless of if it's one kid or 12 on it... And he still has my little brother and sister on it, so me being on doesn't affect him AT ALL. Grrr.

So I was researching. Being over 19. I wasn't in school for 5 months last year. I didn't live at home for at least 6 months. 50% of my financial support comes from ME. And I made over $5,000 last year. My parents have NO RIGHT to claim me. NONE. NADA. ZILCH. NONE!!!

So I call my mom, leave her a voicemail (A very SWEET one, of course.) explaining everything to her and asking her why she still feels the need to claim me. The difference between her claiming me and me claiming myself is about $1,200. Seriously. All she says in response is, "We have to because we insured you... Sorry.". LIESSS. I researched that, too. I was like, "Do you realize how much that extra $1,200 would help with our wedding?" She doesn't care. Mind you, they aren't helping pay for the wedding AT ALL.

What benefit are they getting by claiming me? They don't get any kind of stimulus or anything because I'm over 17. I don't get whyyy it's such a big deal to claim me. UGH. I'm so livid right now!!!

Thanks for letting me vent. =D

[Xerxella]

Musicoholic - I chart stalked you.  Sorry about the BFN this morning, but it's still early. 

TTCCorC - You're parents claimed you so they could take the tax break and get the money.  I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying they get a higher refund from claiming you.  Just go ahead and file your taxes on your own.  Since, no one has the right to claim you, if there's ever an audit (and truly there seldom is) you would be in the right and your parents would be in the wrong.  This is of course tricky business because it sounds like you're relying on your parents for some things (such as the insurance) and I'm sure you don't want to get in a pissing match.  You could try to calmly tell them this, but I don't know how that would go over.  Personally, I'd just file my own taxes and never say anything and hope I didn't get audited.  If I did get audited, I'd be all surprised and say, but mom, we talked about this, I was going to file my own taxes!  So sorry!  Is it passive aggressive, yes.  Wrong?  Probably.  But, if you're parents aren't willing to do the right thing and remove you from their tax returns, you're stuck between a rock and a hard place.  This is of course, just my opinion, you should only do what you think is right in your situation. 

[StephandOwen]

Nicole- what a crappy situation. I would send a letter to your parents, perhaps even through an attorney, saying that you are filing taxes and they are not to claim you because a, b, and c reasons.

is it the nicest thing to do? No. but $1200 is a lot of money and they really shouldn't be claiming you anyway.

[yellowdart]

Originally Posted by TTCChloeOrConner 

Hi, ladies. Thanks for the new thread, Nicolian.

This is not TTC related, but I need to vent... And since there's no one I know awake at 8am, I'm venting here. =D

I'm getting married in March. Like, a month and a half away. I'm totally not an a-typical female, don't care about the wedding, blah, blah, blah. SO. We're going to Vegas. We're getting the whole package (Flight, hotel, marriage license, wedding) for less than $2000. Granted, that's not food, alcohol, gambling, fun, but STILL... It's cheap.

Okay. So we plan on using my DH's tax refund to book the trip and paying the rest out of pocket. I've been up all night (Literally, I couldn't sleep.) researching about tax refund policies. My parents still claim me. It makes me SO mad. I haven't lived at home for 4 years. The only kind of financial anything that connects me to them is my health insurance, but being on my Dad's health insurance doesn't affect his price. The price of his insurance is the same, regardless of if it's one kid or 12 on it... And he still has my little brother and sister on it, so me being on doesn't affect him AT ALL. Grrr.

So I was researching. Being over 19. I wasn't in school for 5 months last year. I didn't live at home for at least 6 months. 50% of my financial support comes from ME. And I made over $5,000 last year. My parents have NO RIGHT to claim me. NONE. NADA. ZILCH. NONE!!!

So I call my mom, leave her a voicemail (A very SWEET one, of course.) explaining everything to her and asking her why she still feels the need to claim me. The difference between her claiming me and me claiming myself is about $1,200. Seriously. All she says in response is, "We have to because we insured you... Sorry.". LIESSS. I researched that, too. I was like, "Do you realize how much that extra $1,200 would help with our wedding?" She doesn't care. Mind you, they aren't helping pay for the wedding AT ALL.

What benefit are they getting by claiming me? They don't get any kind of stimulus or anything because I'm over 17. I don't get whyyy it's such a big deal to claim me. UGH. I'm so livid right now!!!

Thanks for letting me vent. =D

That sucks!  If you're sure you have a better claim for filing on your own and you want to contest your parents' attempt to claim you, I think you can do it.  The IRS will contact you both pointing out the double claim, then you'll have to produce evidence that you are not a dependent and your parents will have to produce evidence that you are.  I am in no way a qualified tax advisor and actually you could probably get more information just by calling the IRS.  I think it's possibly a possible route though, if you don't mind making your folks mad. 

[CDsMom1031]

Originally Posted by Xerxella 

Musicoholic - I chart stalked you.  Sorry about the BFN this morning, but it's still early. 

TTCCorC - You're parents claimed you so they could take the tax break and get the money.  I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying they get a higher refund from claiming you.  Just go ahead and file your taxes on your own.  Since, no one has the right to claim you, if there's ever an audit (and truly there seldom is) you would be in the right and your parents would be in the wrong.  This is of course tricky business because it sounds like you're relying on your parents for some things (such as the insurance) and I'm sure you don't want to get in a pissing match.  You could try to calmly tell them this, but I don't know how that would go over.  Personally, I'd just file my own taxes and never say anything and hope I didn't get audited.  If I did get audited, I'd be all surprised and say, but mom, we talked about this, I was going to file my own taxes!  So sorry!  Is it passive aggressive, yes.  Wrong?  Probably.  But, if you're parents aren't willing to do the right thing and remove you from their tax returns, you're stuck between a rock and a hard place.  This is of course, just my opinion, you should only do what you think is right in your situation. 

It's no tricky business. This has been a bitter battle since I moved out. Now that I actually want the money for something USEFUL, I'm being serious about it. And I'm not worried about the health insurance anymore, considering they dropped me as of Jan. 1. =D Watch me go file my taxes today. I got all of my W2s mailed to MY house last week. She has no idea I even have them. =D *Evil grin* When they get theirs, she'll call me up like she does every year and ask me for them. I'll go, "Oh. I totally forgot. I got all excited about paying for OUR wedding I went ahead and filed them." What's she going to do? Drop me off their insurance? Mwahahaha, she already did that. I am no longer tied to them financially at all. Jerks.

WOOSAAAH. Thanks for the non-TTC support, ladies. =D Means a lot.

[brichole1214]

THANKS FOR THE NEW THREAD!!!

Nicole:   I totally understand where you are coming from!  My parents tried to do the same thing to me but i was 18 and married!!!  We finally got things straightened out though and me and my ex-DH filed our tax return together.  I hope that you can get it figured out soon!  If I were you though i'd go ahead and file your taxes as usual on your own and if they audit you guys just make sure you keep all paper work showing that you didn't depend on them for most of your income.  G/L

AFM: I'm still patiently waiting for my 1st PPAF to show up lol.  It's only been 7 weeks but i'm just ready to get it done and over with!!!  I hope everyone has a wonderful day!!!

[Sourire]

Thanks for the new thread nicolian!

TTCCorC - Glad to hear you have such a great solution to your tax problem :) Sorry your parents aren't nicer about it...

Please move me to waiting to O.

I am a bit down about AF showing BUT... I have been convinced for a few months that I would give birth in November because I am crazy and I talk to my future baby and he told me his birthday was in November... WELL if I get pregnant this cycle my due date will be at the begnning of November (and if I get pregnant next cycle it will be at the end of November)! I've been waiting for this cycle to come for a while, and I am very optimistic about it! AND I have my TTC vacation in 2 weeks where DH and I get to spend an entire week in Mexico BDing and lying around on the beach... this cycle is going to be awesome! I'm so glad its finally here!

[not_telling]

Thanks for continuing to be Thread Master, nicolian!

Sourire: Yes!  This will be a great cycle for you! 

TTCCoC: I say go with your current plan.  Sounds beyond frustrating.

Mummoth: Your question from the end of the last thread...after I know I've O'd I always check BD timing first.

AFM: CD14, DH is gone for the next two nights, but got BD in the last two days and I think I won't O till after he's back cuz my post AF spotting didn't end till CD11 and I think there's usually at least 5 days between spotting and my O.  Last night my family and some of my sis's friends got together to celebrate her engagment.  My aunt was coming up with different ways I could go to India for the wedding without bringing DS.  We're not telling anyone we're TTC, although I'll probably end up telling my sister.  Everything I'm reading basically says that if you're pregnant you really should not travel to places where malaria is present.  This feels like a sucky situation.

[femmeknitzi]

Thanks for the new thread! Please move me to Waiting to O. AF arrived yesterday.

TTCCorC--by law your parents can't claim you as a dependent unless you've lived in their home for 6 months and 1 day. (Half the year). Insurance has nothing to do with it. That means the burden is on them for defrauding the IRS, not you. File away, baby! :)

Sourire, sorry to hear about AF but I hope next month is YOUR month!

Lots of luck and baby dust to everyone!

[yellowdart]

TTCCOC:  Yay!  I'm so glad you're sticking up for yourself in this!

Sourire:  DH and I just spent two weeks in Andalucia where "cold day" meant wearing a sweater over your t-shirt to go out, with lots of nice walks, delicious meals, amazing sights, and BDing like rock stars.  It was great for my cycle, I O'd on time for once, and I have a really good feeling about my chances.  So yeah, going on a gorgeous no (or few) worries vacation might be really really good for you.  Good luck!!

AFM:  Well, actually of course I'm worried I'm not pregnant - it's CD 22 today and 7 or 8 DPO.  I've had just a tiny bit of spotting yesterday and the day before.  I never had spotting that soon after O, and usually when I put spotting on my chart it's due to bloody taste or scent in my CM, not anything that actually shows up on drawers or toilet paper.  So yeah, the spotting is different and I'm really hopeful that means something good.  My whole cycle has been different though, so who can say?  It's so easy for me to get excited during the 2ww.

[Mummoth]

Sourire~ it's good to hear I'm not the only crazy person here! I don't talk to my future baby, but literally every dream about birth/babies I've had, I had a little girl with curly red hair. I've had dreams of her as a toddler, too. I sort of assume she'll eventually really be one of my kids.

TTCCorC~ your plan sounds like a good one. I'm sorry your parents made it difficult for you.

not_telling~ I usually check what the due date would be (October 12th, this time) I hope O holds off for your DH!

[Sourire]

yellowdart - if its not normal for you to have spotting in the LP, I think there's a good chance its implantation spotting. Fingers crossed for you!

[Calycanth]

Originally Posted by Sourire 

yellowdart - if its not normal for you to have spotting in the LP, I think there's a good chance its implantation spotting. Fingers crossed for you!

Fingers crossed for you, yellowdart!

[Stevi]

TTCChloeOrConner...  I think your mother meant that the insurance company required that you be claimed as a dependant to qualify for coverage under your fathers policy. I'm sure they are getting some sort of tax discount for having you as a dependant, but giving you health insurance may have been their prime reason. Try not to be so hard on them. Do file your own taxes for last year, hopefully the insurance company will never find out, especially since you're no longer eligable. I would not do it without telling your parents though, just explain to them that you talked to some people and have learned that you are legally required to file yourself. Don't make a big deal out of it, don't use money as the reason, use the law. And sorry you are having this issue right before your wedding.

AAM...   I don't want to get up and go to the bathroom, I'm afraid I will find AF.