I feel like I know the answer, but I just need to confirm here. DS is due for his 4-year dr's visit in a few months, and when we went to his 3-year dr's visit, the ped said that now that he was 3, we need to start gently retracting his foreskin. I'm pretty sure she's wrong, so I want to arm myself with what to say when she mentions it again, or even tries to retract him a bit herself. I'd just rather she didn't touch his penis at all - how do I say that? When she mentioned it last year, I said that my understanding was that we just let him retract it himself, and she said oh no, you have to start helping him to do it, in the bath and stuff, and she gently tried to pull his foreskin back a bit - I was so caught off guard I didn't know what to do/say, but I had my hand hovering right over hers in case she started going too far. Thankfully, she didn't do much and then moved on.
So anyways, can someone please make sure I'm doing the right thing. Every now and then during bathtime, I casually ask DS if he can pull the skin on his penis back, as I figure he won't hurt himself. That's all I need to do, right? Or not even that?