I didn't know if this should be posted here or under blended families. Feel free to move mods if need be!
For the most part my ex and I have an amicable relationship. We agree on lots of things, which I am so thankful for. I have found out that he is making our DS (5) do push-ups for punishment (each "offense" has a number of push-ups tied to it, and if they aren't done than they go up). I am not comfortable with this. This feels punative and militant to me. My ex is in the military. He sees our son twice a month, for two nights each time. I have given him countless books and I know we aren't the same people and we won't parent the exact same, but any suggestions on how to educate my ex about GD? I have expressed that I do not want this to continue and have suggested books like Playful Parenting, How To Talk so kids will Listen, Connection Parenting. But he won't read books, he won't take any classes, or read articles so I am at a loss here. Any ideas? I just don't know what to do. My ex's viewpoint is "well, it WORKS". My DS' viewpoint is "I just get through them so the number doesn't go up". I guess this strikes a big chord with me as I grew up in a very very miltant household that used any and all forms of corporal punishment and I just don't even want a hint of that style for DS.