We Moved and DS's Life Fell Apart!

[sere234]

Long story....

So Caden was born Aug. 22, one month before we moved and since we hadn't found a new house, we lived with relatives (2 different homes during that time!) while we searched for one. Finally we found an awesome good deal on a home that required some work (yay for endless weekend projects for the rest of our lives!) and bought it on Dec. 17. From about months 4-5, DS's life has been chaotic as we fix the house up in order to move in. We tried so hard to keep naps and nighttime consistent but apparently it didn't work!

Since 4 months old, poor baby Caden has started nursing every. single. hour. at night. Then at about 3 AM, he'll be inconsolable and I'll have to walk and feed him to get back to sleep. His 7:30 waking hour turned into 5:30-6:00, his happy wake-ups turned to screaming wake-ups. Now this whole time I've still been co-sleeping w/o DH since our "loaned" beds are doubles and there's not enough room for 3 of us! But now I want my hubby and my 2-3 nightly nursings back!!

Over 1 week ago we moved to the new house (finally!!!!) and meant to wait a week or 2 before changing Caden's sleep again but now that we are back to 1 queen bed (and nowhere else for DH to sleep until we get a guest room mattress for the bed) and the stress of unpacking, we couldn't wait. Maybe we should have...

Now NO ONE gets more than 2 hours of sleep! C won't sleep in his crib or swing (I always get him deeply asleep before transferring), he won't take a pacifier at night at all, won't fall asleep for DH ever anymore, and now is having nap trouble too! I've read The No Cry Sleep Solution backwards and forwards and have tried so many things from it!

We've tried working on the sucking to sleep (failed), sleeping in the crib (totally failed!!), swing (failed) and now I'm ready to go back to every hour waking while co-sleeping! I'm so tired of the now hours-long process of repeatedly nursing DS to sleep and carefully transitioning him to the swing at all hours of the night. This works generally for naps but not at night!!

I think I've learned my boy is more stubborn than I am!!! Help me!!!! Or at least commiserate and give me hope:)

[chattyprincess]

 dd2 was born July 10th so not a huge age gap. Your son is about 5 months old. We are in the middle of crazy sleep with dd right now too. She got a double ear infection and I got really sick to so we are just 100% co sleeping at the moment.

In my opinion you have to have a routine first before you can change it. So start doing what you want to do. Cosleep, rock to sleep etc. and then just stick by it. I do have to say that I used to be able to transfer dd2 from rocking to crib just fine but in the last few weeks all of a sudden every time I lie her down anywhere she wakes up instantly screaming. I think its a total age thing. I do not think its anything to do with your move.

Is it possible ds is teething? Whenever either of my dd'sstarted nursing more at night i would turn around the next day and start nursing every 2 hours or so. Then after I would put them to sleep I would do a "dream feed" of going in when I was going to bed and nursing them (without waking them) and that would help.

[Knitting Mama]

Yup, I agree that it's more the age than the circumstances. In fact, I just posted about it in another thread! What with mental leaps, physical milestones and teething, it's no wonder sleep is hard to come by at this age! It gets better, it really does.

[bonjourmama]

OMG

I was just coming on the board to post our similar situation. We moved a few weeks ago to our new place and ever since our daughter has literally, been such a mess. She is upset a lot, wakes up a lot, doesn't ever seem to be happy. It stinks.

She is only a month older than yours though, so potentially it is an age thing. I don't know. 

Hugs though, we know how it is.

Not getting much sleep over here either. 

Oh, and definitely noticing lots of developmental milestones here too. Crawling, moving, eating, etc. Does this make sleep harder?

[sere234]

Well, glad to know there's hope!! Bonjourmama, hopefully we both have babies sleeping better in a month or so!!!                      

[Knitting Mama]

Originally Posted by bonjourmama 

Oh, and definitely noticing lots of developmental milestones here too. Crawling, moving, eating, etc. Does this make sleep harder?

OH YES! My theory is that pretty much all of the sleep woes that happen during the first year are based on developmental milestones (both physical and mental) and teething.

[P.J.]

Agreed it's likely not to do with your move but just his stage. I remember at 5 months DS's sleep, which had been pretty good and easy and regular, just exploded in so many ways. Some things never went back to easy (like he still almost always wakes up when I lay him down), but mostly he did fall back into his regular sleep patterns (STTN for example) after awhile...maybe a month or so. Just hang in there!

[asraidevin]

My son was like that at 5 months because he was teething. I couldn't feel anything for 3 weeks and couldn't understand why he was crying every hour. Then two teeth popped through and he slept through the night. Twice. He's 9 months now and wakes 2-3 times a night, but nothing like those teething days.

[neonalee]

An age thing huh?  DS has 1 tooth so far.  Sleep has been pretty bad for almost a week now and we slept so badly last night that today I took a sick day, dropped DS off at daycare and came back home and went back to bed!  I just knew there was so way I was going to survive Chicago rush hour traffic that sleep deprived and DP is traveling for work right now.  Anyway, glad to hear I'm not alone and it will end.  I was really wondering what happened to my boy!