For example, DS wanted to be held while I cooked dinner which is fine. At one point I told him I had to set him down so I could pull something out of the oven. I would pick him back up as soon as our dinner was on the cooling rack. The moment I set him on a chair he started crying. The whole scenario was overdramatized because I don't think he understood what was going on.
I'd love to be able to sit next to him in bed and tell him to close his eyes and assure him that I'm not leaving. Or when he's super upset about x, I could ask him to listen to what I have to say.
FWIW, DS is 15 months old.