Thanks again for the replies. I'll update what I find out. I sent her one of the above links posted about CPD, thank you. I hope she at least labors some even if she has the c/s. I feel for her since she's 40 weeks already and has so much less time to step back and consider it all (compared to 38 weeks even, for example).
40wks, not engaged, hearing "CPD", elect c/s, first time mom - Page 2
About two years ago, had a primip client.. was 40 weeks, head high at -3, no effacement or dilation. We made the "see you next week" remark at the end of the prenatal.... she went into labor the following day... 10 hours total... baby came right down... 9+ pounds. I was taught that the best pelvimeter is the baby's head.... either the baby fits... or doesn't. I have seen a couple of women seeking VBAC who were sectioned based on fear of estimated fetal weight ( late trimester ultrasound) who only gave birth to 8-8 1/2 pound babies.
Of course, if a provider has had a bad experience/outcome with a shoulder dystocia... they may be more aggressive in their response to a baby that is palpating large and with a vertex that's floating at term. I'll admit that my radar goes off.. but everyone is different! In the end, your friend needs to make the best decision for her... following all the "what ifs" to the end...
What? I think it may be time for me to step away from this forum if things like this go unanswered for a whole page.