I've always just let my kids play with whatever toys they want. (We do limit screen time to 1/2 hour day on school days). I never sit them down and try to make them color, learn letters, etc.
My older two are in elementary school now and are doing fine academically. They do their homework when they come home, and then just play however they want for the rest of the evening.
My youngest is 3.5 and goes to preschool two mornings a week. The rest of the time he's home with me.
He barely knows his letters, is terrible at coloring (can't even hold the crayon properly), and is not interested in any arts and crafts type projects. He spends most of his day playing with Hot Wheels cars and/or building toys.
He's allowed to watch one TV show a day (while his brothers are at school), and we usually read for a good chunk of time every day.
Should I be "schooling" him on the stuff he's not so good at? I was talking to the mothers of kids in his preschool class and they all "drill" their kids on stuff for a while every afternoon.
I always felt that kids should just do their own thing (as long as it's safe!) at this age. But we do have full day Kindergarten here, so I worry he won't be ready.
What do you all do?