uggh! I'm so confused right now... Lately I feel like I have no idea how to parent a teenager. How am I supposed to make rules for this child when I don't have a clue?
Does your teen have a bedtime? My dd would stay up all night if I let her (and has many times--on the weekends). She has ADD and has had sleep issues literally since the day she was born.
She can sleep just fine once she goes to bed--that's not the issue. The issue is that she never feels tired. As an infant/child she never fell asleep in the car, or a stroller, or in front of the TV. She is super alert..at a sleepover she is the last one to sleep and the first one up.
But she needs a normal amount of sleep and when she doesn't get it her ADD symptoms get a lot worse (forgetfulness, distractability, etc.)...and she does have a hard time getting up for school when she goes to bed late.
So, on school nights, I usually tell her to go upstairs and take a shower at 9:00 --then she needs to be in her room after that --no TV or computer in her room...so I'm guessing that she's probably asleep by 11:00 but probably later some nights. But the 9:00 thing is a constant battle that I'm getting tired of.
I'm wondering if I should just let her go to bed whenever she wants--with the assumption that she'll soon be oversleeping/having a hard time getting up, and missing the bus and/or school. The bus ride with her HS friends is the highlight of her day and she'd hate to miss it...and maybe eventually she would take some responsibility to get to bed at a reasonable time? Is this an area where natural consequences will work?
I'm thinking that, if I left it up to her, she might actually go to bed a little earlier, because she'd be taking some responsibility --instead of just trying to figure out how to stall and act like a rebellious child...
This week I'm feeling completely unsure of every decision I make...