9 year old using GD??

[Petie1104]

DS went to school and they had AR store.  Apparently when he gets AR points he earns AR dollars that he can use at the AR store.  Well, he picked me up a tootsie roll (he knows I LOVE me some tootsie rolls), dss and ds 2 a piece of candy, and he picked himself up a piece of candy.  Well, he saw something he couldn't pass up for dd.  He saw the Fancy Nancy board game.  He used most of his AR dollars to get his sister this game knowing how much she loves Fancy Nancy (and the fact that her not reading yet really impedes her ability to get AR points).  So, he had this all in his backpack and went to wait for her at the crosswalk. 

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I'm at home with ds 2 and dd comes home.  Ds1 hadn't walked in the door but alot of times he'll walk her to the driveway and then go talk to his friends for a few minutes because it's always chaotic when dd first walks in.  I get a phone call from the school asking if dd has made it home because ds had been waiting for her at the cross walk that whole time.  The school knows that she isn't supposed to walk home without him, but apparently, she slipped by the crossing guard without him noticing.  So I explained that I would deal with her leaving without ds. 

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DS comes home and is furious.  He was worried sick and had gone to the office to have them call me to find out if she made it home.  So, he took her Fancy Nancy board game and explained that he was going to hold on to it because he was upset and didn't feel like giving her something that he got because he wanted to make her happy.  He explained to her that he was worried sick and that she had shown a lack of regard for his feelings and how leaving him there would make him feel.  He then explained that when he was calmed down he would give her the game, and that he did still love her and care about her but she needed to remember that when she left without him it was affecting more than just herself. 

DD was a little upset, but then went over and gave him a hug and said she was so sorry and would he pretty please forgive her for not thinking about him.  He said, "of course I forgive you silly, but I'm still a little upset".  At which point they talked and he finally gave her the game. 

OK so that is the first time that I have witnessed DS actually using GD type principals in dealing with a sibling.  Mind you, we switched from Pearl type techniques to GD when I caught this same DS "spanking" this same DD.  This was just amazing to me.  Of course, I watched and thought "wow I need to watch him more often, I could really learn something".

[LynnS6]

Yeah! It's funny how what we do really is taken in by our kids, isn't it?

I actually see that with dh. His parents never spanked and it's just not in his repertoire. Mine did, and when I'm really mad, I have to fight the urge. I hope my kids are more GD than I am!