Need advice on Early pregnancy & Drinking oops.....

[gingergrltea]

Ok I have pcos.My SO and myself were trying to get pregnant.It was looking like it was not going to happen for us.

My last periods were Nov 1 & Dec 10 that one was only like 3 day and VERY HEAVY BLEEDING......By my long cycle I figured my next would be around Jan 18.....I took a preg test everyday up untill the 20th of January....They were all VERY NEGITIVE.So I think I got pregnant in Jan & not Dec.Thank you PCOS for my irreg cycles.....

Well I thought since I am not pregnant I will start taking my xanax again & I did take them for a few days as I was stressed out (now I know that was due to hormones)

This weekend I got super drunk off of one glass of wine and a bunch of rum & diet cokes plus I smoked like a chimny.I am also guilty of smoking and vaporizing the Mary Jane!!!!!

Well I thought Monday morning that I was peeing more then normal so I took a test and it was positive.I have taken 3 since all positive.All lines are a little on the light side.So one line is lighter then the other

I am VERY discusted with myself,and super sad that I partook in treating my body like a trash can while I didn't know I was pregnant.

I am not for abortion but really don't know if its a option I should  think of.I will see my obgyn today to ask him some questions.I have stopped all smoking and xanax & drinking.I am a firm beiliver in being healthy during pregnancy.

What do I do in this situation?Worry or just act like nothing happened?

Does the baby somehow protect itself during early pregnancy from harmful stuff?

If this needs to be placed in another forum please do so.

[RoseRedHoofbeats]

I don't think it's likely to be a problem. MJ isn't teratogenic, Xanax is unlikely to be a problem unless you take it over the course of your pregnancy and the baby gets addicted, cigarettes aren't a big deal if you aren't a heavy smoker, and one glass of wine and a mixed drink like rum and coke shouldn't be a huge deal. I mean, yeah, it SOUNDS like a lot for early pregnancy, and it is, and you are at slightly higher risk for birth defects- but that is still a VERY small risk overall. I don't think you're looking at something catastrophic like FAS or anything.

~Rose

[goldingoddess]

If you are going to see an OB or midwife in a hospital or birth center setting where they do not 'set their own rules'  like a homebirth midwife does, it is in your best interest to not disclose the use of drugs.  Even in the distant past.  Just answer no for the history and do not bring it up.  In many states they are required to drug test you through pregnancy and possibly even test the baby when the baby comes out.  There have been a lot of threads on here recently from mommas that are being threatened by CPS involvement for being honest about past drug use.

Just my $0.02.

Oh and your baby is fine.  The first 6weeks of pregnancy they are surviving off the yolk sack and the placenta has not formed yet, so alcohol/drugs are not being transferred.  If I were you and had PCOS I may want an early ultrasound to confirm dates.  Also, I know mamas who smoked MJ medicinally to help with morning sickness because it is the only thing that worked.

Congratulations!

[othersomethings]

You'll be fine. Quit now...no more smoking, MJ, (maybe don't mention that one to the DR...they might insist on drug testing you throughout the PG and after...) no more drinking, no more prescriptions unless you OB perscribes them...

You'll be fine. Baby will be fine. Long term exposure is the general concern with most of those, and if you are done with it you don't need to worry.

Pretty much every time I've had a positive pregnancy test was in the middle of a depressed bottle-a-night wine binge. This current pregnancy too..I was 3 glasses in watching a movie when I realized my boobs were sore, I'd been more tired than normal, and one other thing I forget now...and the clues added up and my sister and I jumped up and drove to the drug store for a test! Instantly positive.

I'm 29wks, baby is fine and healthy, I'm fine and healthy despite my first week or two stressing over the drinking.

Use it as a lesson for how we treat our own bodies, knowing how precious they are for the jobs they do whether it's current or future. And move on.

You'll both be fine :)

[Italiamom]

Originally Posted by goldingoddess 

If you are going to see an OB or midwife in a hospital or birth center setting where they do not 'set their own rules'  like a homebirth midwife does, it is in your best interest to not disclose the use of drugs.  Even in the distant past.  Just answer no for the history and do not bring it up.  In many states they are required to drug test you through pregnancy and possibly even test the baby when the baby comes out.  There have been a lot of threads on here recently from mommas that are being threatened by CPS involvement for being honest about past drug use.

[CourtBChase]

With my first daughter, we were trying and I had a temperature drop, spotting and all impending signs of aunt flo.  I was super bummed, and decided to cheer myself up with quite a bit of wine (it had been almost a year at that point).  The next day, temps back up, spotting stopped and two days later I got a BFP.  Oops.  I felt really guilty, but she was absolutely fine.  It's good that you know now, and are making different choices as a result.

[Smokering]

So, how many weeks pregnant were you at the time of the drinking? I'm with the PP - the first several weeks of pregnancy are a "grace period", if you like. Until the placenta takes over, the baby isn't getting his nutrition from you, so he isn't getting "bad stuff" from you either.

I would recommend starting folic acid and iodine supps ASAP though, if you haven't already. And if your nutrition isn't already stellar, it's always a good idea to pack in as many nutrients as you can get before the morning sickness kicks in. You do that, you'll be pretty far ahead of the curve when it comes to early pregnancy virtuousness! :) Congratulations!

[gingergrltea]

So, how many weeks pregnant were you at the time of the drinking?

Not to sure just got a ultrasound.We didn't see anything in there.Ultrasound tech said my lining was thick,and that was a good sign.I had the classic PCOS string of preal ovaries.They took a HCG blood test.So Sat or Monday I will know what the number is then to come back,and take another one Monday.

My last 2 menses were Nov 1 & Dec 10......No positive pregnancy test until Monday the 24.So really I have no clue what is going on.Will be sad if there is nothing.Its a pain in the bum to get preg with PCOS.

[Neuromancer]

I have a friend (this is not a friend-of-a-friend; I heard it straight from the horse's mouth) who didn't know she was pregnant until she was 4 months along.  She dealt with a lot of guilt when she found out (she drank and smoked socially the whole first trimester), and certainly she would have done things differently if she'd known, but the end of the story is that she has a beautiful, healthy 3 1/2 year old son.  So don't be too hard on yourself and do what you can going forward.

[JulianneW]

Originally Posted by goldingoddess 

If you are going to see an OB or midwife in a hospital or birth center setting where they do not 'set their own rules'  like a homebirth midwife does, it is in your best interest to not disclose the use of drugs.  Even in the distant past.  Just answer no for the history and do not bring it up.  In many states they are required to drug test you through pregnancy and possibly even test the baby when the baby comes out.  There have been a lot of threads on here recently from mommas that are being threatened by CPS involvement for being honest about past drug use.

Just my $0.02.

Oh and your baby is fine.  The first 6weeks of pregnancy they are surviving off the yolk sack and the placenta has not formed yet, so alcohol/drugs are not being transferred.  If I were you and had PCOS I may want an early ultrasound to confirm dates.  Also, I know mamas who smoked MJ medicinally to help with morning sickness because it is the only thing that worked.

Congratulations!

[sharita]

I was only 19 when I got pregnant with my first and was a bit of a partier.  I didn't find out until I was almost 3 months along that I was pregnant.  During that time, I had smoked twice, (which another friend of mine smoked occasionally her entire pregnancy and all was fine)  I am talking mary jane not ciggs.  I got very very drunk 3 times, and had been on a super strict diet.  I barely ate.  Also took all of the no-no meds like ibuprophen, aspirin in large doses. etc.  I also smoked tobacco until 7 months along and was finally able to quit.  I quit everything else the moment I found out though.  I disclosed this to my midwife (and got lucky cause I have heard horror stories of CPS, ect.  and she said that it should be fine.  She was right.  He is a very gifted 9 year old now.  He does have ADHD but so do I so no surprise there. 

[treeoflife3]

Honestly, I think a LOT of people do some questionable things ranging from the mild tobacco to much more hard core and not really 'questionable' during those first weeks.  Especially people who aren't trying and have no clue to watch for signs.  I'm 99% certain I got drunk while I was pregnant the first weeks.  I have a healthy kid too.  Granted, getting drunk once isn't as much as other stories, but I think our bodies are pretty well designed to protect a new bean until mom knows its in there and can be more proactive about it.  We can't all be perfect always so it only makes sense that we have some safety nets naturally in place.

[kittywitty]

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Edited by kittywitty - 6/18/11 at 1:06pm

[Maurine]

Often they can't see anything until past 6 weeks, so your u/s might not have picked anything up yet.  With PCOS, you can ovulate ANY time, so who knows how far along you are.  I got my BFP at 12 days past ovulation (or just under 4 weeks pregnant).  So, you could be that early!

And don't worry about your activities.  You should be fine.  My good friend drank heavily, smoked cigs, and took some other prescription drugs the night before her positive test, and gave birth (vaginally!) to healthy, happy 6+ pound twins.