My daughter has been a notoriously bad sleeper since the first night she was born. We coslept and DD now has her own room where she starts off the night.
I have absolutely no problem that she comes into our bed when we are in there later. BUT, she starts off in her own bed at 8pm bedtime. She goes through phases where she will sleep until midnight, but often is waking up crying by 10. And someone has to go in there and snuggle her back to sleep. Some nights she'll just keep crying every 10 minutes if you leave her again. (Oh, and whether she started off in our bed or her bed it would be the same crying a couple hours later).
I also have a 17 m.o. who is his own terrible sleeper and wakes constantly, so it's super frustrating when it's just a whole night (the part where you might actually be getting 3 hours to read, talk/be intimate with your spouse, relax) trying to quell crying, sleeping children.
When I ask DD why she cries she's not really sure. The most she says is, I like to have Mama and Dada there and not sleep alone.
But I would think at 4 years old she should be able to go 3-4 hours in a bed by herself.
And it's not just by herself. She will wake up in the big bed with us and demand that she be snuggled. And cry, "I need to be snuggled!" I know it's nice to be snuggled and all, but this has to stop. I do think DH created this snuggle monster after DS was born, prior to this she was in bed but didn't need to be snuggled by me, but we need help un-creating her. Any ideas?
I know that each child is different but I do think, developmentally, she can sleep 4 hours straight. I don't think I'm asking for that much.
I do think it is partly habit and am looking for way to break the habit and give her better sleeping habits. And I'm not above bribery!
Thank you for any help you can give!