Just replying to the OPs first post, I also am HSing my DS in the first grade (although we don't do grades, he is 6), and he is my third, so I have done this a few times now.
Does he get a lot of physical activity? My DS is my most wild, strong-willed child and I try and make sure he gets a lot of time to run off all his steam outside.
Have you looked at Sonlight? If he doesn't like what he is doing now, maybe he would like something like that, where he just listens to fun stories. But I guess that might not be okay with a charter..?
You could also try (if you don't already) doing most things, math, etc, orally. It goes SO much faster, and they are still doing it.
Unschooling could be good too. I am really not a big fan of school at all, and have said that I would let them run wild in our woods all day before I sent them there. And sometimes that's what happened. =P Then I think of all they are learning just by playing, building forts, etc.
You could also just 'quit' for a while and see what happens. Sometimes we are going thru a fustrating time and I just back off and see if they don't choose to do something educational on their own. Many times they will end up looking at a book or something that opens the door to a different topic.
Just recently, on her own, my DD decided she had to know how to read better and understand fractions so she could make cookies like one of her little friends does. This was really important to her and she did great. Is there a way you could follow his interests?
As for TV and screen time, I'll be honest, I don't know how to deal with that. We don't have a TV, and the computer is 99% only for adults, and we have no video games, etc. I can see DC wanting to that over what they should be doing (as well as DH and I) and I don't want to deal with that, personally.
One more thing- are you sure he is understanding? With my own, sometimes I have realized it's not that they really don't really want to do it, but there is something they aren't getting so they put it off, yk?
Originally Posted by maciascl
DS1 is in 1st grade and has no real intrest in doing anything but playing and watching tv. When I try to get him to "do school" it is a huge fight and he can't focus for more than 5 min at a time. I don't feel like I push much. We only really do actual work maybe an average of an hour or 2 a day depending on how long he fights me. We are going through a charter school so I push somethings that are not a big deal to me to make the school happy, but not being in the charter is not an option for us for several reasons.
He is not interested in doing anything the resembles school. He has told me he wants to be adopted by a family that won't make him do any school. DH says he was like this in school too and was held back in 4th grade and put in alot of 'special' classes because of it. I am very tempted to give up and put DS in public school but I am afraid that he would totally be overlooked with the way that schools are now or he would be labeled and never challenged. He is not dumb, but he is lazy and unmotived, just like DH says he was.
I just don't know what to do. I feel so inadequate to teach him, deal with the 4 year old and 5 month old. Next year it is just going to be worse with a 2nd grader, Kindy, and a 1 yr old to chase. I feel like giving up but am scared to put him in public school. Plus I'd still have to fight him on homework.