Originally Posted by geekgolightly
OK I think there might be a misunderstanding here. She said she loved every minute of being at home with her kids. She does not regret the time spent. She regrets the lack of financial planning essentially. Just wanted to clear that up.
I do think that this article was written from a dark place. There is no resolution for her, currently. And I enjoy reading from differing perspectives. I do not want to be served up rosy lighted pictures of being a SAHM (or anything!) all the time. I want to know what I;m up against in anything that I do. Like I said, I'm a planner. That means looking at the potential disasters and figuring out how to avert them as well as looking at all the good that can come from *any* decision.
I see where you're coming from and maybe because I, too, am a planner, I'm finding it really hard to relate to this person. DH and I will never divorce, because it's against our religious beliefs and barring some sort of extreme abuse issue, we will be together until death separates us forever. This is not me sitting in judgment of divorced people; it's just me stating a fact that I have utter faith in. So the divorce issue is just totally foreign to me.
Second, she's a freelance writer who's won numerous awards and been published all over the place. Hardly what I'd call unemployed. If anything, she was a part-time WAHM. So there again, she's coming from a completely different place than I am and it's hard to relate. She could have been squirreling away money here and there, which is something I do and I don't even have a real income. It has nothing to do with being a SAHM and everything to do with being frugal and planning for the future no matter what it may bring.
I don't know. I'm glad you got something out of the article! But to me, it just seems like she's unhappy about the job market and her own prospects for employment and is blaming the fact that she chose to stay at home for the wretched state of the economy. Everyone
is having trouble finding work, not just privileged award-winning freelance writers for Salon. (And since when is freelance writing a career with good job security anyway? I know plenty of writers who are thrilled to make any money at all.)