I have an MA in history. I am not getting why the only place you are able to go/have conversations is a playgroup...? I have many stimulating friendships, i do a lot of interesting things. I don't see why people who SAH are unable to do such things simply because they SAH. When i last worked out of the home i had to listen to people wittering on about Big Brother and other trashy tv, and gossiping about what was going on in the office bitch stakes. Very very little of the conversation was about the task in hand.
In my playgroup (where kids meet, in a group, to play) the moms are of very mixed backgrounds and interests. Only one other mom besides me actually has any sort of degree. Some of them are not even aware there is anything HAPPENING in Egypt. That is not because they are idiots who only talk about teeth and vomit, it is because they aren't interested in world politics. The benefit of WOH in a specific career is the somewhat higher possibility of meeting like-minded people (not many doctors HATE talking about medicine for example) but there are plenty of options for talking about such topics OUT of work. There are message boards, voluntary organisations, the web. You can research and write articles to submit for publication without an employer telling you what to be interested in. If you were a surgeon i could see how, for example, you might miss doing surgery - it's really hard to find an opportunity to do ANYTHING surgical out of the work context (i'm imagining you sewing the banana skins back up after the picnic!). But as a historian there should be plenty of scope for you to have discussions, do research, write, whatever, whether you SAH or not.
There is a perception that SAH eclipses everything else. Why is that? Work-life balance is important even if one SAH's. Why is SAHMing so incredibly time-consuming that you cannot do anything interesting or stimulating? This week i have sewn cloth high-chairs, assisted in the writing of a conference presentation on mixing agile and model driven design in software development, critiqued presentation techniques of the person who will be doing the presentation, designed artwork for a website, planned blurb for said website and had numerous discussions, online and IRL, about an incredibly wide range of topics (none of them teething or vomit). And i have done all of it with at least one kid in tow, usually both.
Most of us managed to get pregnant despite WOH, i'm sure most of us can manage to have some kind of intellectual life, despite SAH.
Originally Posted by Chamomile Girl
Originally Posted by kittywitty
No offense or anything, but why are you in this forum, then? I doubt it'd be taken well if I went into the Working Parents forum and went on about how much I hated WOH and would never do it. Right?
Originally Posted by Super~Single~Mama
Well, when I was staying at home (on break from school) my brain DID turn to mush, or at least it felt like it. I HATED staying at home, never doing anything, never seeing my non-mom friends, not using my brain to think about anything other than the next diaper change. I'm sorry it offended you, but thats what SAH was like for me. Maybe its different for you, but I could not do that. It is NOT something I could do, or want to do. My child is better off when I have a life outside of them - and not just when my partner isn't working.
I've seen many people post that they "are like a single mom" b/c their partner works 24/7 and so they get no help, and I just am not interested in that at all. It would be a NIGHTMARE for me. Truly. It's not for some, for some people thats what they want to do, and SAHM is what they're good at, and what they love. I love my child and live for him, but I could not SAH. It would not be a pretty picture.
And I agree-it's a playgroup. In most I've been to there's a bit of a taboo against talking religion/politics because it's for the kids to play and it almost always ends with harsh feelings when those topics are brought up. And it's not just SAHPs who talk a lot about their kids. All parents do that. It's not that they have nothing better to talk about. Just like when I was a philosophy major, all I wanted to talk about was philosophy. Not because that's all I knew or was interested in, but that was at the top of my mind. And having worked at two hospitals in several different professional roles, yes, doctors and nurses do often talk almost exclusively about medical things. That and gossip about relationships.
Well this (bolded) makes the pretty erroneous assumption that everyone who SAH enjoys it or chose that as their lifestyle. I can assure you that is not the case.
Do I not have a right to be in this forum because I hate SAH? I'm still a SAHP regardless...
And as to the playgroup thing...that is exactly why I need to get my job back. I'm a historian for freaks sake...talking about the world is in my blood (and talking about kids is hella dull).
What is so controversial about events in Egypt anyways?