I normally don't visit this thread but my interest was peaked when I saw this as one of the main posts on the SAHM forum. My interest was peaked because I recently read a highly-read blog on the NY Times website about a SAHM (with six children) who was recently confronted with an unexpected divorce, and although her ex-husband was paying child support, he lost his job and there was no income coming into the family. I think there are several prongs to this whole issue. First, the author in the present article here is writing in hindsight, which is of course is always 20/20, at least from an individual perspective. No matter how much we try to spin her situation as one of simply a result of current economic times, or of her choice of trade, her personal choices and the way she views the results are valid to her, even if they don't make sense to us. I've been alive long enough to reflect on choices that I may earlier in my life and whether or not my life could have different had I taken a different path. I don't think her situation is sad, as some have inferred, I just think that reflection and hindsight is the human condition.
I also think that sometimes we make decisions in our life based on our values, but I don't think that compromise in how we implement those values or reflection on prudence of those decisions are necessarily a damnation of those values. I think that people make due with their circumstances without sacrificing their values. I think that reflection is important, and that is why I think that the author's piece is probably a work in progress. She is coming to terms with decisions that she made in her own life. Of course, we could censor her for feeling this way, and prohibit her from writing this stuff, because ultimately there is is an offensive element to her writing (to some). But, it is her journey. There have been myriads of others who have dissimilar experiences, and of course have written about. My parents reflect and mentor me on a lot of things they have done and regretted in their life. Even though I don't see their decisions as ones that are negative or even things that are applicable to my own life or something I can "relate" to, I respect their experience and reflection.
I've been in the author's place many times, not about SAHMdom but in other areas where I feel that "what if I had done something differently." It is the journey of life. It is not a condemnation of others' decisions. I tell other people what I know and what my experiences are. If someone takes something away from it, then they have learned something new, found something else to think about.