The distinction is that you are in the driver's seat. You are not hoping and praying that your partner will make the decision you want them to make. You can not control their career decisions in order to ensure your destiny. Yes, life throws curveballs, that is part of life, but what is NOT a normal part of life is just blindly trusting that someone else will make sure that you will be cared for financially.
That she was out of the full time tiger attack on her career and instead on the mommy track, which meant that her career was not developed and she is now hobbled. Her ex husband is not bearing the same issue. He is doing well career wise/financially I assume he is faring better than she ever will again.
It was her choice to trust him to take care of her. I am having a hard time coming to terms with trusting someone to care for me in that manner. And for very good reason. There are many stories like these and IMHO, anyone who chooses to stay at home and does not ensure their own financial security, either by prenup, postnup, or some other way of solely owning monies for all the work she or he does at home is cutting off their own legs. I plan on sorting this for myself.
I'm well aware that the "mommy track" is a real phenomenon. However, if this article is a good sample or her writing, she may well have been knocked off the "tiger track", because her writing isn't very impressive. Maybe her ex is also a better journalist, yk?
Yet another person attacking her writing. She has won awards. She gave it up. She was the one who took the career hit.
I really hope that no more strawman arguments come up.
I really don't give a crap why she's broke, and it's not a "strawman". I think her writing sucks. I wasn't aware that I was under an obligation to like it, just because she's won awards. (I don't always like Oscar winners, either.) I'm astonished that she ever made a living with her writing, let alone a good one. (And, yes - I know my writing sucks, too - but I'm not expecting anyone to pay me for it.)
Where can I see what awards she's won, btw? I was busy with dd2 when I read the article, but I've noticed several people have referred to that, and I didn't notice it. It honestly astonishes me.
Oh, I thought you were contributing to the discussion by saying you think her writing sucks and that is probably why she doesn't have a job. But if you're just randomly giving your opinion without trying to posit a point, then by all means. It's an ad hominem attack rather than straw man. I don't like those either, much.