So, my DP and I have 3 kids - I gave birth to DD in May '08, and DP adopted her through an attorney. Problem is we live in a small town and no one hear has/had the foggiest idea how to handle the whole the lawyer was a very nice lady, and did get the job done, but it was a huge hassle. They filed the wrong paperwork twice, made umpteen appointments for us to come in and fill out the same information on half a dozen different forms, messed up on the homestudy thing, etc
Now myt DP has given birth to twin boys, who I intend to adopt. But I really don't want to use the same lawyer and I'm not sure anyone else will be better. As far as I know we are the ONLY lesbian couple with kids in the county.
So I'm kinda thinking that we should try this on our own, but I can't for the life of me figure out where to get the forms & such. Our local courthouse was useless (they said to hire a lawyer). It was abundantly clear that the previous lawyer was looking up these forms somewhere since she had never done this before, but I'm not sure where or if I can get ahold of the forms without beign a lawyer. Internet searches just keep bringing up lists of states where 2nd parent adoption is legal, which doesn't help me!
FWIW, I'm in New York state. The twins are 2mo and conceived with the help of a sperm bank, so there's no paternity to deal with. The adoption is entirely uncontested, and we know who the social worker is who will do the home-study. She doesn't know what to do about the rest of the process though, she just does home-studies.
Anyone do their own adoption? How did you go about it?