My three year old DS has in the past several months started fighting his naps. He has always needed me to lie with him to take a nap, but with a 2 week old that can't always happen now, and even when I do he often will not go to sleep. I really don't know what to do. I need a break, I need to nap if I possibly can, and I need to be able to look after my newborn.
He is not even close to being ready to give up naps - without fail by 4pm he is running around screaming, throwing tantrums over everything, grinding his teeth so hard that I can hear it across the room, and banging his head on the floor. It is 2pm now and he is in his room shrieking because I left after and hour and a half. This really has to stop. I don't want all three of us to be in tears every afternoon. Today I was planning on picking up DH at work and going grocery shopping so he could help me carry everything in the house and so that we could all have an outing together, and now this is not going to happen. We need groceries!
I get so frustrated with him for not napping, and then all the bad behaviour that goes with it. I end up yelling at him, and then feel like the worst mother in the world. I just feel like he used to be such a good kid, and now I have no idea who he is and that it must be my fault somehow that he acts like this. It breaks my heart that I want my "old" son back and am having trouble enjoying spending time with him now (I am in tears writing that).
What am I supposed to do?