( I will X post this in the teens forum)
ETA - Just finished reading all of this and it sounds like I am mostly venting and trying to work this out myself... Thanks for hanging in if you get through all of this!
I am looking to get advice concerning my son who is an athlete. My problem is the amount of work he does and his health. I have always been fearful to be one of those moms who directs from the sidelines. KWIM? I have always kept my head and let the Coach do his job.
My gut is to listen to my son and let him trust his body, but he really has this Coach on a pedestal.
Here are some stats:
Ds will be 17 in 2 weeks. He has been running since he was 11 (in middle school - cross country).
He is 5 ft 10 and about 108-110 lbs. He looks like a runner.
Just at the beginning of this cross country season (fall of 2010) something just clicked and he has been running elite times and is ranked top ten for cross country in the state. We are getting letters from colleges and he is only a junior.
Coach is an extreme runner. Runs 100k's. Runs 24 hours.... Serious guy.
So the deal is that after cross country season (November) I and my son's doctor wanted him to take off winter track and rest. The idea was for him to go into Spring track really rested and break some records etc. Coach didn't want him to, obviously he wants to make it to the State meet with my son. My son decided not to run winter track then changed his mind after a series of texts from Coach. Coach will text ds first thing in the morning and continue all day. My son worships this guy. I really like the guy too. He respects the kids and never yells or cusses at them. The one thing he doesn't show respect for is when the kids are injured and need a day. He pretty much tells them to shake it off. For example..... in Sept my son ran a 16:03 5K. He ended up with severe soreness in his calves for running on his toes. The day after the meet (no recovery day) Coach has ds run 10 miles at a 7 minute mile pace. My son missed 2 days of practice after this. OH! And you should have heard Coach when ds told him he had to miss practice....they guy emailed me to confirm it! He didn't believe the kid who willingly comes out every day and pushes himself to crazy extremes??!?!??
So how do I approach this guy? Would you say anything? I don't want the reputation of being that mom.
But my son is working so hard. And I'm just so scared that he is asking too much of his body. I do buy Boost/Ensure for him just as a precaution. He is very serious about running...he doesn't eat refined sugar during the season and stopped drinking all soft drinks.
He had a track meet a week or so ago and was supposed to run the 1600 and 3200 (mile and 2 mile). He ran the mile and broke the school record. Then about 30 or 40 minutes later ran the 2 mile. We had talked earlier and he made the decision not to kill himself in both events. But his Coach was upset that he didn't run harder during the 2 mile. Every time he lapped Coach - Coach was fussing at him. DS shook it off, but he came home sick on his stomach later that night and had diarreha all evening. I feel good that ds kept up with what he originally intended to do. But would you as a parent, step in a demand that the Coach NOT run your kid in two events? Events that are that strenous I mean?
UGH - I am so conflicted. We have still got to get through Spring Track, and the Cross Country his senior year and then two more seasons of track.
So? Piss Coach off and alienate him?