Responding positively to child with ADD when you are anything but ...

[meandmine]

My dd, almost 9, has ADD.  Her dad has it big time.

I probably have a mild form, but I was given lots of structure in my life so I am very structured.

I am not handling her school/piano work well:  She forgets work at school; she forgets to turn in completed work; she brings work home that should have gotten done at school; she fails to tell us about work that needs to be done; she does sloppy work; she doesn't practice all her piano pieces etc.

It becomes overwhelming to me in how many areas she is not completing work.

As a single woh mom I cannot police everything she does.  I cannot stand over the piano and check that she does every piece. 

I can call from the kitchen while cooking dinner and say ... did  you do all your pieces and hope for an honest answer ... which apparently I am not getting.

I am scared for her future, her present, and am upset and embarrassed to be getting notes from her teacher, etc.  I feel inadequate because I do not have hours a day to go over her work, check her back pack etc.

Anyone have any coping strategies.  I don't want to be dragon lady, but this evening I got so upset.  It hasn't been fun for anyone in my house.

Thanks for ideas on how to respond in a positive way and how to help without micro-managing.

M

[Emmeline II]

goaskmom.com sells a student planner (that can be redownloaded at no extra charge if lost) designed for ADHD children. They also have tips and articles about dealing with ADHD, some of which I've linked below.

Does your dd have a 504? My son has some simple accommodations in his 504 for ADHD, like "provide visual daily schedule", "provide with prompting for upcoming transitions"...

goaskmom.com

Student Planners

That Works for Me-Mom tested ideas for your ADHD child.

A chart for everything, and everything on its chart.--

Focus Pocus Book- 100 Ways to Help Your Child Pay Attention.

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Ten Steps to Organizing an ADHD Child

[atom'smama]

Thank you! Great links.