When I felt overwhelmed (move, too big of a house in a foreign country, another baby, another move ....) what helped me most was telling myself that the minimum I should do (especially post partum) was the water points in the house
1 - toilet
2 - kitchen sink
3 - wash basin and shower or bath
Getting back in the habit (and if it's done nearly every day or at least 5 times every week, then it's a really fast routine to get through, maybe like 5 minutes each, whenever it's possible during the day) really made me feel that I had a good starting point for adding up other routines.
I'm a messy person, I won't pick up nor put away easily ... = my children didn't learn that either and it's hard now improve but I'm trying ... I like reading here so as to get ideas ....
I used motivated moms calendar for a while, read a lot about flylady ... and now am trying to work out my own system .. still working on my weekly tasks list (and getting around to doing it) but am rather happy so far about daily tasks (even if I don't always get through to number 7 and 8 on the list), my system for laundry, dishes and the sink ....
still have a lot of work in perspective to get a good grip on clutter + on montly and quarterly tasks ....
making lists in a 3 ring binder really helped me (.. at least to think that I was getting organised about it, even if I regularly slip ....)
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