Originally Posted by MissSJ
Even when I get a 'perfect' (100%) grade on a paper I write for school I don't believe I deserve it - that the teacher grades easily, the teacher doesn't have high expectations, etc.
Did your parents tell you crap like that?
Mine did. Growing up, nothing I did was every good enough and it had a pretty serious hang over for me into adulthood.
Oddly, the thing that helped me start getting over this was Flylady.net, which is a house cleaning system. It's all based on doing little bits but doing them routinely, nothing is every perfect but nothing is ever trashed. It made a huge difference in my home, and made a difference in how I approached the rest of my life. It's weird.
Another thing that helped me was keeping a gratitude journal. Just writing down 5 things every day that I was grateful for, and sometimes they are things that I have done! It's helped me become more positive.You can't be both grateful for something and considering how imperfect it is at the exact same moment. You gotta chose one, so if you make it a point to spend a couple of minutes every day just being grateful, those are a few minutes that you let go of the demand for perfection and accept (and rejoice in!) what is.
And I know I recommend this book all the time, but it is great for re-programming your self talk: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. I need to check "feeling good," I've heard about that book several places now!
One of my affirmations is "I go beyond my parent's limitations." For me, perfectionism is a hang over from my parents, so this affirmation makes sense.