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post #1 of 39
Thread Starter 

Hee hee! Let's change it up a bit.

 

My DH has a 50 minute commute (if there is no traffic).

He gets home around 8-9 PM.

 

I do homework with kids, cook dinner, clean kitchen, give baths if necessary, read to kids and send them to bed at 7:30.

After they go to bed I do more housework stuff and get DH's dinner set up.

 

He walks in looking tired and wired and is starving.

He says hi and makes a pathetic attempt to be cheerful if a kid happens to be awake.

He makes a crazy face at the baby (she likes his crazy faces), and pats her on the back.

He gives me a peck on the cheek and eats his dinner.

I fold laundry on the floor with baby wrecking it while he eats and we do a recap of the day.

He says nothing and just wants to listen.

Then I ask if he wants to watch TV, which we do every night.

We both desperately need to mindlessly unwind after our hard day.

The baby is practically attached to me and co sleeps, so she sits in between us and plays with her toys and nurses back and fourth until she finally goes to sleep around 10.

At that point we might watch one more show and out go the lights.

 

This is life with 3 kids right now.

He says he might get prostrate cancer from the lack of sex, but he doesn't hold it against me or the baby.

post #2 of 39

My DH works two jobs.  If its a day he's only working one, he picks up the kids from daycare and then I get home around 6pm from work. 

He's already started dinner so I play with my 21 mth old as our 11 week old is usually sleeping.

We eat dinner, I nurse the baby, and pump a bottle.

We all play until my sons bedtime at 8pm (bath, jammies, book, night night) 

Which is also the baby's bedtime so I nurse him to sleep in our bed.

If we don't go to bed at this time (which 3/5 times we do) we'll talk / clean / watch a TV show.

When we go to bed I take DS out of our bed an put him in the cradle.

 

If its a day he's working his 2nd job, he still picks up the kids but runs out the door as soon as I get home.

Then I start dinner and the rest of the night is the same.

post #3 of 39

Most of the time DH works form home so:

 

At around 6 he comes downstairs, normally wearing flannels and a tee shirt : ) 

We eat dinner together

He plays with kids while I clean up or if he has a call or something important, heads back upstairs

Bath time 

He hangs with DD and they have Daddy time (a new routine) while I put DS to bed 

I read in bed until they come in to sleep! (Bed sharing still with DD) 

 

 

If he goes into office our routine is:

I do dinner/bath/bed alone 

He comes home and I say hi and we hangout or I keep on reading in bed if I'm feeling tired 
He is wearing same tee shirt/cardigan combo but maybe with jeans ; ) 

post #4 of 39

When my dh was home, he had two places of work--his regular job and remodeling and managing houses to rent.  The first job involved going in very early in the morning, and working with chemicals and various other gross stuff for 8 hours.  He'd get home at one, a soggy, stinky, tired mess.  Then usually leave again to remodel houses, after which he'd get home anywhere between 6 and 10 pm, a sweaty, grimy, tired mess.

 

So the evening routine was usually on me.  If he was home for supper, he ate with us and helped me clean up, and occasionally we'd do family singing or reading together.  If he was home before the kids went to bed, we also did the evening prayers together.  Usually the kids would help me tuck *him* in. lol.gif  And then I'd get them in bed afterwards.

 

post #5 of 39
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Edited by kittywitty - 6/18/11 at 1:00pm
post #6 of 39

He walks in the door and kicks off his socks and shoes, leaving them in the doorway. He'll throw his briefcase in front of the fireplace. If I have dinner ready when he gets home at 6pm, he sits at the table, eats with us, asks everybody how their days was, tells us how his day was, then goes out to the living room with a 2 liter of mountain dew, empties the contents of his pockets on the ottoman, strips off his clothes, lays on the couch, lets out a loud fart, throws a bunch of pillows off the couch and onto the floor, covers himself strategically with a blanket, and watches videos and plays video games until 2-3am. He'll play the video game online with 10 y/o DD, and he'll have 4 y/o sit on the floor beside him and watch the computer screen with him. He might occasionally get up and get his bathrobe on to answer the door when his pizza or chicken (with another 2 liter of mountain dew) is delivered. He'll leave his food delivery boxes and soda bottles on the floor next to the couch. He'll put on his bathrobe to go outside and smoke a cigarette, forgetting to close the vertical blinds before he strips naked again (thankfully the balcony overlooks the lake). Or, he'll go to the bathroom and take a 3-5 hour bath. He'll hobble back to the master bathroom to destroy the toilet bowl, using all the toilet paper, and clogging the toilet (never plunging it unless told to do so, btw). Oh, and he'll forget to turn on the vent/fan in the bathroom, so even though he goes to the back bathroom, the smell fills up the entire home. 

 

If I try to pick up when he's home, he'll complain about the lights hurting his eyes, or say that I'm making too much noise, or claim that the smell of incense burns his nose.

 

If I ask him to go do something as a family that day, he'll complain how he never gets time to do things he wants to do (sleep, play video games, watch his shows, take 3-5 hour baths, etc). 

post #7 of 39
I want dinner ready when I get home from work! Clean laundry would also be nice. I don't know how you SAHMs do all the stuff you do! I barely manage a job and keeping the household afloat, and DH barely manages baby care and cleaning. neither of us is all that competent at housework. Thankfully we are both neat, otherwise it would be a mess over here!

My DH is a SAHD and just dealing with the baby and the animals, while keeping the house clean, is way more than enough for him. He is whipped by the time I get home. He lives in jeans and Tshirts with paint on them. I work from home many days, on which I get not much done because Im giving him a break from the baby. He is an artist and paints with the baby in tow every day as well. He is up with DS at 6 am every day and is with him until bedtime many days, except weekends, which we split.

When I have to go to the city for work or errands about 3 x a week, I get home about 6-7. (I do almost all the errands, as I have a fast pass to cross the border and he does not. its a difference of sitting in traffic 15 min max for me or 3 hours for him) Depending on the day, Im either in a suit or similar formal dress, or something business casual, which quickly is removed for jeans and Tshirts.

DS usually falls asleep between this time, so he could be in bed (our bed) when I get home. If not, I feed him and put him in the bed. We don't have a routine, just feed and put down. If he doesn't fall asleep within 15 minutes, we go get him and try again later. he is a good sleeper, at night only, and wakes up at least once to eat. He is now 5months, 2 weeks old.

I almost always have work to do once I am home, so spend time on emails and such for a little. Often, some friends come by and we all make dinner. If we don't all do it, no one will, sad but true. We eat around 10pm, either a meal we make or something from the local taco shop, then go online, watch some TV, hang with friends until I go to bed at 11:30. DH then goes to sleep around 12:30, but don't have to get up to feed DS in the middle of the night, I do that as Im a night person.

Once a month I travel for a week. I hire help for DH so he doesn't get burnt out and revolt, lol.

Wake up, repeat as necessary ;-) On weekends I get up early and hang out with DS all day. If we didn't cosleep I would miss out on so much snuggle time- I am so very thankful cosleeping works for us.
post #8 of 39

My dh gets home around 6.

He changes clothes (from nicer business clothes to flannels and a tshirt)

We eat supper

He plays with the boys while I clean the kitchen.  I actually *love* this time, because I can clean with no interruptions.  LOL

We get everyone in jammies and to bed.

I nurse the baby, and he goes to bed.

By 8ish, all 3 of mine are asleep or quickly getting there.

 

We watch a tv show or mess around on the internet or read or something.

 

We are in bed around 9:30, sometimes sooner.  Old people for sure.  (but in our defense, dh gets up at 5 for work, and I'm up in the night at least once with a child)

post #9 of 39
Dh gets home around 7. Im not always home though when he gets home with ds at things like scouts or karate. If I am home dd immediately wants to go upstairs with him and watch snow white. I either finish making dinner or sometimes i order out. Then we eat, ds gets a shower and gets ready for bed. Dh puts him to bed, I put dd to bed, then we go to bed.
post #10 of 39
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Originally Posted by AtYourCervices View Post


He walks in the door and kicks off his socks and shoes, leaving them in the doorway. He'll throw his briefcase in front of the fireplace. If I have dinner ready when he gets home at 6pm, he sits at the table, eats with us, asks everybody how their days was, tells us how his day was, then goes out to the living room with a 2 liter of mountain dew, empties the contents of his pockets on the ottoman, strips off his clothes, lays on the couch, lets out a loud fart, throws a bunch of pillows off the couch and onto the floor, covers himself strategically with a blanket, and watches videos and plays video games until 2-3am. He'll play the video game online with 10 y/o DD, and he'll have 4 y/o sit on the floor beside him and watch the computer screen with him. He might occasionally get up and get his bathrobe on to answer the door when his pizza or chicken (with another 2 liter of mountain dew) is delivered. He'll leave his food delivery boxes and soda bottles on the floor next to the couch. He'll put on his bathrobe to go outside and smoke a cigarette, forgetting to close the vertical blinds before he strips naked again (thankfully the balcony overlooks the lake). Or, he'll go to the bathroom and take a 3-5 hour bath. He'll hobble back to the master bathroom to destroy the toilet bowl, using all the toilet paper, and clogging the toilet (never plunging it unless told to do so, btw). Oh, and he'll forget to turn on the vent/fan in the bathroom, so even though he goes to the back bathroom, the smell fills up the entire home. 



 



If I try to pick up when he's home, he'll complain about the lights hurting his eyes, or say that I'm making too much noise, or claim that the smell of incense burns his nose.



 



If I ask him to go do something as a family that day, he'll complain how he never gets time to do things he wants to do (sleep, play video games, watch his shows, take 3-5 hour baths, etc). 




 

If this is true, I hope you print it along with the other responses and leave it for him to read after you've left for good.
post #11 of 39
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If this is true, I hope you print it along with the other responses and leave it for him to read after you've left for good.



If she is happy with him, why should she leave?

 

Most people did not put into detail their DH's bodily functions. I could have done with out those parts.

It could have been written that he comes home, eats with the family, they talk about there day, then he watches tv and plays video games while eating junk food.

That wouldnt mean she should leave him.

post #12 of 39
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Originally Posted by mom2happy View Post





If she is happy with him, why should she leave?

 

Most people did not put into detail their DH's bodily functions. I could have done with out those parts.

It could have been written that he comes home, eats with the family, they talk about there day, then he watches tv and plays video games while eating junk food.

That wouldnt mean she should leave him.



 


I guess if she IS happy, she shouldn't. My judgment may be clouded from her other posts. My apologies.
post #13 of 39

DH either comes home around 5:30-6pm or the kids and I go pick him up for 5:30, depending on who has the car that day.

 

His job can be draining, but most of the time he puts on a really good happy face and jumps into time with the kids as soon as he gets home. If he needs to decompress, he'll say so and ask for 15 minutes alone in his home office before the kids (ages 4 and 6) pounce on him. One of us will make dinner and we'll try to all eat together. After dinner, he and the kids often do a project together or play games together while I rest. If I'm up to it, one of us will brush the kids' teeth and the other will do storytime before bed. If I'm down for the count (I'm disabled), then he does bedtime solo.

 

After the kids are in bed, we might watch a show together on Netflix, play a board game or card game, or just hang out and talk. He'll do dishes and I'll do laundry (or I'll go to bed). And then he'll work on his own projects until oh dark hundred before finally getting some shut-eye. In the morning he gets the kids ready for school and we start the routine all over again.

post #14 of 39
DH usually gets home between 5:00 and 5:30, sometimes earlier, depending on when he left that morning. He commutes by bicycle, and it takes about fifteen minutes door-to-door. Currently, he'll strip off his winter gear when he gets home and either hang out in bike shorts or change into sweats. In the summer, he usually gets into the shower first because he's sweaty from the ride. He hangs out with DS (14 months) the whole evening, keeping him entertained while I make dinner or whatever. We chat about our day. We eat dinner together, then DS plays a little more before DH gives him a bath. During bath time, I usually get our rooms ready for bedtime - make our bed, pick up, get DS's bedtime stuff ready. DH gets DS into his pjs and reads to him, then I come in to nurse him and put him down for the night. We meet up downstairs to clean up the kitchen from dinner and hang out together. We've got a great rhythm going on right now, but I'm sure if we have another child in the future we'll have to figure it out all over again!
post #15 of 39

The other thread is so fun, I've gotta post here too. My husband gets outta his coat and suit coat before he gets home, no matter how cold it is and loosens his tie. I guess its how he starts to unwind, but yea... burrr. Sometimes he'll still have on his scarf and gloves which makes me giggle. He has also usually run his fingers through his hair mussing it up and then I guess he tries to smooth it out before he walks in, so its always adorably wonky. Hmm well at least I hope that has happened to his hair after he leaves his office. Anyhoo he also has an altoid in his mouth, case over his arm and a paper in his hand, which doesn't help when I'm trying to take us paperless, but he just loves to read the newspaper front to back, so I gotta pick my battles. This is seriously like clockwork. 

 

After greeting him he usually scoops up the youngest and sits in the kitchen with our 14yo son and they go through his math homework. Both are huge math geeks so this is like a treat for them. Our 9yo son is a budding chef and is always playing sous chef for me in the kitchen too so he chatters with them both. Our 11yo daughter takes his things to his study and hangs up his coat(s), she's a little neat freak like her momma and has done this for as long as I can remember. Then its off to the dining room for family meal time. During dinner everyone talks about their day and then we chat about current events. He really checks in with each child here and he usually feeds the toddler. After dinner I clean up with whatever child has that chore for that month then I'll do a quick pick up of the house, throw in a load of laundry if needed and get book bags and school papers ready to go for the next day. Hubby is off doing baths with the little ones and he's usually gotten the littlest to bed by the time I'm all done. Our older children have free time before bed, so this is when my honey takes some time to play a board or card game with one or two or jump into a rousing game on the wii. Its my time to get caught up on the email/networks and return any calls I couldn't take during the day. Then when our oldest head to bed DH and I have a routine of getting ready for bed together, which I love. The house is quiet, a toddler may or may not be scurrying around our feet and we just peacefully go about getting ready to settle in. Up into bed he'll have his computer and chit chat about our days. Honestly I think he secretly can't wait to retire so he can be a part of it all. Then its goodnight and I love yous and we settle in for some sleep before the next hectic day in our household begins! love.gif

post #16 of 39

He comes home between 8-9pm most nights, though sometimes it can be as late as 1am and occasionally as early as 7pm.

 

He still has on his tie when he gets home, but his jacket is long gone and his shirt sleeves are usually rolled up. He likes me to greet him at the door with a peck and a drink in hand. I try and pretend its 1950 most days. LOL.

 

I try to have dinner ready when he walks in the door. We eat, and then I rush to brush the 4 year olds teeth, read him books and try and get him to bed at a decent hour. I will only hold dinner until 9 before giving up - we try to keep his hours as best we can.

 

While I am reading to Henry, he will get in the bathtub. He usually stays there for at least 2 hours. Sometimes I will go in there and talk to him, listen to him talk about his day, discuss things that I absolutely have to with him, like insurance stuff, car repairs, etc. Other times, I just enjoy my down time. Its my only alone time of the day, too.

 

When he gets out, the throws his work clothes (pants, under shirt, under garment, as the shirts and ties go to the cleaners) into the washing machine. I'd better not have anything in the dryer, because when he puts his work clothes in the dryer in the am mine will just go on the floor. It bugs me to no end that he insists on washing a load of work clothes every night, since he has enough to last a 6 day week!

 

He lays down on the couch, and watches TV until he passes out. I try to wake him up to come to bed, but lately I just don't bother. Its not worth getting grumbled at. He can just be uncomfortable on the couch until he wakes up at 3am with a stiff neck.

post #17 of 39
DH and I work at the same small company so we usually carpool. We both stop by to pick up DS at daycare around 5:15 pm and after DS nurses in the car we sing songs and get home around 5:45. DH usually wears jeans and a fleece pullover at work, so that's what he looks like when we get home. Once home, I nurse DS again, DH lets the pups out to potty and plays with them/ feeds them. Then I start dinner while DH plays with DS (watching TV with 1 eye eyesroll.gif) We feed DS, if the dinner is fully ready then we eat too, then one of us gets into a bath with him while the other cleans up the kitchen. After the bath I nurse DS to sleep while DH unwinds in front of a tv, or if DS is still not ready DH would play with him some more while I browse mothering online. Once DS is down for the night I come downstairs and do cleaning chores, with DH usually pitching in, or if we're really tired we hang out on the couch and watch Burn Notice while DH gives me a footrub. Then we go off to bed. sleepytime.gif

ETA: sorry apparently I forum crashed
post #18 of 39
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Originally Posted by AtYourCervices View Post

He walks in the door and kicks off his socks and shoes, leaving them in the doorway. He'll throw his briefcase in front of the fireplace. If I have dinner ready when he gets home at 6pm, he sits at the table, eats with us, asks everybody how their days was, tells us how his day was, then goes out to the living room with a 2 liter of mountain dew, empties the contents of his pockets on the ottoman, strips off his clothes, lays on the couch, lets out a loud fart, throws a bunch of pillows off the couch and onto the floor, covers himself strategically with a blanket, and watches videos and plays video games until 2-3am. He'll play the video game online with 10 y/o DD, and he'll have 4 y/o sit on the floor beside him and watch the computer screen with him. He might occasionally get up and get his bathrobe on to answer the door when his pizza or chicken (with another 2 liter of mountain dew) is delivered. He'll leave his food delivery boxes and soda bottles on the floor next to the couch. He'll put on his bathrobe to go outside and smoke a cigarette, forgetting to close the vertical blinds before he strips naked again (thankfully the balcony overlooks the lake). Or, he'll go to the bathroom and take a 3-5 hour bath. He'll hobble back to the master bathroom to destroy the toilet bowl, using all the toilet paper, and clogging the toilet (never plunging it unless told to do so, btw). Oh, and he'll forget to turn on the vent/fan in the bathroom, so even though he goes to the back bathroom, the smell fills up the entire home. 

 

If I try to pick up when he's home, he'll complain about the lights hurting his eyes, or say that I'm making too much noise, or claim that the smell of incense burns his nose.

 

If I ask him to go do something as a family that day, he'll complain how he never gets time to do things he wants to do (sleep, play video games, watch his shows, take 3-5 hour baths, etc). 

 

 

lol yikes!!!!  yikes at your husband and yikes at you for posting about it!  I bet he'd be some humiliated if he read what you'll write to strangers about him.....

post #19 of 39

DH gets home around 5:00, gets into old soccer shorts and a favorite T-shirt and plays with the kids until dinner is ready.  He usually takes them downstairs to the unfinished basement and plays indoor soccer or hockey with them, or they'll play Wii together while I cook.  We all have dinner together at 6:30 or so and then he usually does the dishes and cleans up the kitchen for me (I cook/he cleans).  The rest of the evening is kids' homework, more playing together, often a family game (usually Uno) until bedtime.  After the children are in bed (they all sleep in our room on mattresses on the floor) he goes down to his workshop in the basement and works on his model train layout or brings a model train project upstairs and sits with me on the sofa while I read.  We rarely watch TV, unless there is a football game on. 

post #20 of 39

My DH walks in with a smile on his face and has a big welcome home routine with DD1.  She goes running at him, he picks her up, and then comes and kisses me. 

 

If dinner isn't ready yet he will go upstairs with both girls and get changed (he's an attorney, so he's always in dress pants and a button down shirt at least if not a tie and jacket as well) so I can finish up the food, otherwise we just sit down right away and eat.

 

After dinner I put the baby to bed and he plays with DD1.  I come downstairs and clean up dinner and then we all hang out and pick up the house until DD1 goes to bed (he does her whole bedtime routine). 

 

We relax together for a while once both kiddos are sleeping and either watch some tv or if he has more work to do I'll play on the computer while he works.

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