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post #141 of 144
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Originally Posted by Super~Single~Mama View Post



 

Then don't go to school the semester that you are giving birth, and wait until you are ready to leave the baby with a sitter or in daycare.
 

 


THat's what I was privileged enough to do :)  It just stinks that people who don't have that privilege have o be away from their newborn :(

 

post #142 of 144

Im with Swede on this one.

 

It is discrimimatory against women to disallow babies in certain settings because women have babies. having a baby is not irresponsible, and not wanting to be separated from one's newborn does not come from a sense of entitlement. 

 

However, a baby can be distracting. This we all know. So it is a matter of  balancing needs.

 

If a baby is distracting the class, then the mother can walk out. Why does this have to be such a big issue? Why is this making some posters so incensed?  Why not rephrase the law 'no children or pets allowed  if they are distracting.' Isnt it possible to have a sense of trust in the mother that she be considerate enough of others to remove her baby if the baby is causing a problem? And cant this consideration likewise be applied by others to a nursing mother? 

 

I have been in situations where babies are not normally welcome, and find that usually it is fine.  When the baby is too distracting (crying for eg) then the baby is taken out. Usually there is minimal distraction, even though there might be a little ruffling here and there.

 

This is definitely about a broader principle of accepting that reproduction is a normal part of life, and requiring separation from mother and baby us effectively excluding many mothers/women

 

OP, if i were you, i would want to feel it was ok to bring my baby. But like most mothers, i would be hyper sensitive to those around me, and want to take baby out if baby was distracting.

 

Whats the big deal?

 

(oh, patriarchy, thats right)

 

 

post #143 of 144
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Originally Posted by contactmaya View Post

 

However, a baby can be distracting. This we all know. So it is a matter of  balancing needs.

 

If a baby is distracting the class, then the mother can walk out. Why does this have to be such a big issue? Why is this making some posters so incensed?  Why not rephrase the law 'no children or pets allowed  if they are distracting.' Isnt it possible to have a sense of trust in the mother that she be considerate enough of others to remove her baby if the baby is causing a problem? And cant this consideration likewise be applied by others to a nursing mother?

 

FIrst off, this is a REALLY old thread that needs to go to thread heaven.

 

Second, the OP stated that SEVEN women in her class are having babies this semester.  ONE baby might not be distracting.  SEVEN would be distracting.  Especially in a small seminar class that the OP talked about.  Seriously, I would be LIVID if I was in a seminar class in a higher educational setting and there were SEVEN babies in it - thats when it starts to look more like a new mom/baby playgroup than a college class.
 

 

post #144 of 144
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Originally Posted by contactmaya View Post
Why not rephrase the law 'no children or pets allowed  if they are distracting.' Isnt it possible to have a sense of trust in the mother that she be considerate enough of others to remove her baby if the baby is causing a problem? And cant this consideration likewise be applied by others to a nursing mother? 

No, people cannot be trusted to make this decision. Haven't you ever been in a religious service or at a wedding and someone is letting a baby SCREAM? I've actually been in services when the minister has had to stop and request that someone leave the worship area because he can't be heard over a baby crying. Unfortunately, some people aren't thoughtful and considerate, which is why the blanket policy is in place.
 

 

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